Hello and welcome to BW
Just FYI, we here at BW are very much against CC/CIO, so you've come to the right place if you'd like a gentler method. Just so I know how much to explain, have you read any of Tracy's books?
Lets start with the basic questions:
What is your LO's routine - when is he waking/sleeping, how is he getting to sleep, what/when is he eating/drinking?
Where does your LO sleep - in your bed/cot beside your bed? Would you be able to move him to his own room?
Does your LO have any medical conditions - eg. reflux that may affect his sleep? If so, is it controlled & how?
Is your LO teething?
How did he used to sleep way back when, before the cold?
also I've been told I need to stick to it no.matter how tired I get.. which in theroy makes sense but he wears me out!!
I had the patience when he was a diddy thing but.he's a year.next month and the both of us.need a decent night!!
Totally understand the exhaustion and just wanting something to work! Just know that sticking to something and being consistent is your best ticket to a decent night as soon as possible.
Have a read of these links:
http://babywhispererforums.com/index.php?topic=19710.0http://babywhispererforums.com/index.php?topic=126141.0http://babywhispererforums.com/index.php?topic=62612.0http://babywhispererforums.com/index.php?topic=85130.0So you understand the stage your LO is up to day routine wise -
http://babywhispererforums.com/index.php?topic=145285.0