We just usually show up to stuff a bit late. I send DH and my 5yr old ahead, I stay back and I will probably put DD down for nap a bit early, and then we go when she's up. Otherwise, I try to plan to leave so she has a car nap on the way there and then EBT. Those days are always going to be a mess and we just try to manage them the best we can. And if it's a day where I feel like she absolutely just can't miss her nap, then we just don't go. Such is life. People get it, or they don't, and I really don't care if they do or not lol.