My son is a bf eleven month old. He used to sleep in bed with us and nurse laying down, just so his father and I could get some sleep before work. When he was in his 9th month we couldn't sleep with him in bed anymore due to his tossing and turning. So we walked him, rocked him, nursed him to sleep- and tiptoed out of the room... it was horrible.
Two months later- I can lay my son down in his crib and he will settle himself to sleep usually within ten minutes (but we still have our nights). The thing I've been having trouble with is he doesn't know how to settle himself back to sleep once he wakes in the night. Which is very frequent. I'll give you last nights run down - know that the daytime routine is still the same.
6:30 wake and nurse
7:00 cereal and fruit
9:00 nap for an hour
10:30 nurse
11:00 lunch
1:00 nap for an hour and a half
2:30 nurse
3:00 snack
5:30 dinner (whatever we are eating)
6:30 cereal and nurse
then we start our bedtime routine
bath, baby massage, book, bed
usually he falls asleep by 7:20
normally he wakes up every hour on the hour one of us goes upstairs and gives him his pacifier back to sleep. At 10:00 I nurse him one last time before I head to bed. This is what happened last night-
10:00 nursed (5 min), 11:00 pacifier, 12:00-3:15 screamed his head off every 4 minutes. I stayed in the rocking chair in his room the whole time. Every time he sat up, I layed him back down, he would fall asleep for a few minutes and wake up hysterical, it took at least 20 minutes to calm him down everytime, and still he would only sleep for 4 mins. At 3:30 he woke again, I had had enough- I nursed him (10 min) and put him back to bed. 3:45 he woke again- My husband works at 4:30 he begged for the last half hour to sleep so I brought my son to bed with me. 5:30 woke again, nursed him back to sleep 6:30 he woke up and we got up.
Help me PLEASE! Before I started this routine I was against CIO and now that I have been holding my son and listening to him scream for so long, I think I'm used to hearing him cry and maybe I should just let him scream himself back to sleep. Horrible thoughts go through my head at 3:00 in the morning. I'm exhausted. Husband doesn't help with nighttime- he wants baby to cry it out so if I'm to make pu/pd work I need to do it. (I'm not mad at husband for this, I recently quit work to stay home with our son, so we are agreed that he should get to sleep at night)