If your lo doesnt want to be spoonfed then give her foods she can feed to herself. My ds feeds himself all sorts of things with his fingers e.g. pasta, rice, mashed potato, cooked vegetables, peeled and chopped fruits, etc. The only thing he is spoonfed is yoghurt but he likes it when I load up the spoon and hand it to him to put in his mouth. He did start on purees but I gave him loads of finger foods from the start and this is what he prefers now. He has finger fed most things since 9/10 months.
