Hello everyone,
I have been reading through many of the messages and trying to filter out an answer to my dilemma...although there are so many messages to look through I fear it may be easier (for me) to just post.
My daughter will be 11 months on Oct 1 and we have been trying to follow the Baby Whisperer EASY routine and other advice as it worked like a charm for our 4 year old! However, I've gone desperately wrong with the night-time wakings and am not sure how to get back on track.
Here is some info to start off with:
Daily Routine
7:30 - Wake and Solid Food Breakfast (Cereal and Fruit or Toast)
8:00 - Activity (involves the car - taking sister to 'school')
8:30 - Bottle (6 oz formula) and Playtime @ Home
9:30 - Nap (1.5 Hours)
11:00 - Wake and Solid Food Lunch (Pasta or Meat and Potatoe/Rice)
11:30 - Activity Time (songs, games, toys, etc)
12:30/1:00 - Nap (2 Hours)
3:00 - Wake and Bottle (6oz formula)
3:30 - Activity (car ride to pick up sister)
4:00 - Activity Time (usually chasing sister around the house)
5:30 - Dinner Solid Foods (Pasta or Meat & Potatoe/Rice or Soup, etc)
6:00 - Playtime during dinner cleanup
6:30 - Bath (not always every day - on 'no-bath-days' she continues to play quietly with her sister)
7:00 - Bedtime routine (close blinds, change diaper, have a bottle (6oz formula), read stories)
7:30 - Lights out - and falls asleep usually right away
Now, this is where my dilemma comes in - she consistently wakes up sometime between 10:00 and 11:00 and we've been feeding her - we were doing a 'dream feed' when she was smaller, but I don't know if we should be continuing this - and if not, how do we stop??
The second issue is she also consistently wakes up around 3 or 4 AM expecting a bottle because that's what we've taught her to expect...we always have given her one - and it has to stop because frankly, I'm exhausted and she doesn't need it (right?).
Last night we fed her as usual at 10:30PM and then she woke up at 3:30AM. I did the pick up/put down technique - although I didn't pick her up fully into my arms, I more or less removed her hands from the side of the crib and laid her flat with her lovie (she has two toys she sucks and chews the heck out of!). Of course, she was confused and hated what I was doing - I counted putting her down about 43 times in an hour and a half. Thankfully I had earplugs in because the crying was almost unbearable.
Now, do I stay in the room doing the PU/PD the entire time until she's sleeping? At what point do I leave? I failed miserably last night because after 1.5 hours of the PU/PD and her making the "i'm falling asleep sounds" that she tends to make (accompanied with lovie sucking), I caved and ended up feeding her. I *KNOW* that I wasted the 1.5 hours of the PU/PD by doing that, I just didn't know how long to continue - forever? She has far more stamina then I gave her credit for, that's for sure.
She is teething. Two up top and two down low are fully in - and two more on the way in the bottom. I have been using oragel to soothe her gums because she gets quite cranky with it. I have not noticed her waking any more or less with or without the teething - so I'm don't believe that it is playing much of a role in this situation.
She also is increasing her mobility. She's been crawling for three months and standing and walking along the furniture for almost two months. She's tried to stand on her own and walk but isn't there quite yet.
So - I guess, after that long long story, my questions breakdown to this:
1. When do I stop dream feeds - and given that she's 11 months old and VERY used to them - HOW do I stop?
2. How do I stop the 3AM wake ups?
3. If the answer to any of the above involved the PU/PD - is there a limit on how long to continue that in a single time? (ie: the 1.5 hours we endured last night?) - or do I just go until she gives in and falls asleep?
THANK YOU for any replies you can offer.
Leslie in Canada