Takes hour to get her to go to sleep

[kez1sophie]

  I will start from the second my evening started tonight, 730pm i was running the bath, my lo comes up stairs i remove her vest, knickers and socks (as she striped everything else off already) she got on her bed i went to the bathroom, i shouted through to her Sophie i am waiting for you. She shouted " Mommy i have weed in my bed" i said you had better not have done. i walk in her room to her opening her arms and going "Da Dar" like its brilliant. I flipped my lid as this is now the 2nd time she has done this. Its not an every night thing. I calmed down changed her bed then she has a bath. (She has been totally dry and clean in the day since February 07)

Got her out the bath, got her dressed for bed (Nappy at night time still), she climbs into bed i sit on a rocking chair and proceed with a storey, daddy brings up a beaker of milk, she drinks it and i finish the storey. (This is every single night the same)

Now the fun starts.  

She says "Mommy stay with me"
I say ok only 2 minutes and mommy has to go to sleep to.
I get up kiss her say night night and leave the room.
2 seconds later she comes out her room,
i take her back sit another 2 mins
this goes on 6/7 times.
them she asks for water
then more milk
then sometimes calpol (which she does not get, she asks for it because she has had it in the past when she been ill)
then its will daddy sit with me.
so another half hour and its
mommy can you sit with me.

i can't do this anymore, please what have we done wrong how can we correct this. I am 10 weeks pregnant shattered and am sick to death of this every night.

Now she seems to have only started this since she new mommy had a baby in her tummy, which has now been 6 weeks. It seems about the time she started it. ( i could be being paranoid but im sure its around that time i never thought at the time.)

She has between 1/2 hour and 2 hours nap in the day and its between 11 and 2pm.

Im just trying to give as much info as i can so i can get some advice. I really am desperate can anyone help me?

[momofclaire]

You might be onto something in thinking that this had a little to do with the fact that she knows about the baby. As hard as pregnancy can be for you...she has really no idea what to expect.  It is probably very hard for her to process that information without making inaccurate assumptions.  (Mommy won't have time for me, I am the baby....) 
I would start by having a longer windown at night.  She could probably use some extra mommy time right now while she prepares for the new baby.  Does she have a lovey or special toy/stuffed thing she sleeps with?  Maybe she could go to the store and help pick out a "big girl" sleeping friend.      
I think it is normal for her to get clingy upon hearing the news.  I would try the longer windown, new stuffed bedtime thing ect...and then maybe do gradual withdraw. 
Hang in there.  I know you are probably so tired in the evenings and desperatly need some Y time but try to really fill her mommy cup now as she is going to have to share her two favorite things in a few months. 

 

Myia

[kez1sophie]

Thanks for the advice, she does have teddys in her bed and loves the taggy doll. (small cuddle toy with tags all over it) it does always seem a rush around thing getting her to bed, the other problem i have now is i started part time university 2 weeks ago and am not there tuesday and wednesday evenings to put her to bed. She does not seem to mind and gives daddy the same performance, she got out of bed 15 times last night for him.
She has started to say things like "You will be coming back won;t you mommy" when i pop upstairs etc, and says i thought i lost you mommy, if i'm in another room. I definately think its the new baby coming, i hope she will be ok when it here, im dreading it.

Im doing early childhood studies and education at uni so maybe ill learn some new things that may help me.

Thanks Myia

[momofclaire]

It certainly sounds like a bit of separation anxiety. I would just try to work through it with her. You want to help foster a bit of independance but at the same time assure her that you will always be back and that she won't lose you. 

I am sure the transition of you being out in the evenings is also playing a part in it.
Hang in there.
Myia