Am I doing it correctly

[Serides]

My DS is almost 11 months old. he is still waking during nigh couple of times. Our routine has slightly changed after I stopped 11:00 am BF. I wonder if our routine is causing a problem in his night sleep. Here is our routine

E 06:00/06:30 wake up and BF
A
E 08:00 Breakfast (bread, cheese and jam)
A
S 9:00/9:30 - 10:00/10:30

E 10:30/11:00 yogurt with fresh fruit
A
E 12:00 lunch
A
S 14:00/14:30 - 15:30/16:00

E 17:00
A
S 18:00 Bedtime
19:00 / 19:30 sleep at the latest

[Grace's Mom]

Is he only having one BF a day?

At the 17:00 EAT time, is that dinner or a BF? 

When he wakes up at night what is he doing? 
When he wakes, what do you do?

Thanks.
Melissa

[Serides]

Sorry I have forgotten to mention BFs

after afternoon nap he is having BF

and one more before bedtime

in addition I give him cow milk in the morning with breakfast and from time to time during bedtime routine.

when he wakes up at night he is generating a sound between crying and shouting nowadays. sometimes to go to his room and lay him down can be enough but sometimes he begins to play, clap hands and dance while sitting in his crib and it takes an hour to make him sleep.

during bedtime, he is falling asleep on his own. I'm just sitting between doorway and his bed.

[Grace's Mom]

If he isn't really, really crying at night then I wouldn't go in at all. He may be waking (as all babies do at night) and is now expecting that you'll come in so calls for you and then gets mad if you aren't there.  Babies are tricky like that and it only takes 3 days for them to start up a habit, but the good news is it only takes 3 days to break the habit. 

At bedtime, have you tried leaving completely so he can fall asleep with out anyone there?  It may help for when he wakes with no one there so that he feels confident in falling back to sleep on his own.  Just a thought.

What do you think?

[Serides]

I want it more than anything. I tried it during sleep training. However he cried so much and I couldn't make him cry. I thought he would grow in any case and learn to sleep in his own. But I'm considering it now again as I think similar to you. If he learns to sleep alone in the room, even he wakes during night he will sleep back on his own. But I need some advise to have a smooth transition.

[Grace's Mom]

You can try Walk In, Walk Out or a version of Pick Up, Put Down where you just do the put down. 

Use reassuring words and make sure he knows what is going on.

With my daughter when we are having bedtime issues, we do our normal bed time routine and then we tell her...."Grace, now it's time to go to sleep.  Mommy is going to put you in your crib and you need to go to sleep by yourself like a big girl.  I love you so much. "  If she cries I rub her belly or head while she is in the crib and tell her..."Everythings OK, we are just going to go to sleep now....Mommy and Daddy are going to go now....go to sleep, etc.".

For us WI/WO does not work as she just gets more worked up and stimulated, so for my daughter she does best if we aren't in there...she usually cries for a few minutes and then goes right to sleep (on the rare days she is having issues with something).  I am not advocating CIO (cry it out) at all.  If your lo really needs you then you of course go in, but some lo's just need a minutes by themselves to work it out.  If we are in there she will not go to sleep and if she does it takes FOREVER (1 HOUR OR SO) but if we leave she's out in about 5-15 minutes.

It all depends on your lo and what works best for all of you!

I would check out the sleep boards for more advice on how to go about things and they are the one who know best! 

Melissa

[Serides]

I tried WI/WO before. He gets so stimulated. Then I stopped. Since his first days he doesn't want to sleep. He wants to experience world. I insisted on routine, naps and night sleep and now he is sleeping 1.5 hours during nap times and have a good routine - he was sleeping only 45 minutes, it was like a alarm clock It took long to sort all things out. There is only one left; NW. I have to solve this one as I need really a good night sleep.