only 1 NW left to fix

[jcjc205]

Ok... this is now getting worse.

Last night, put to bed at 6pm since she only naped 30min. Asleep by 6:45. Woke up 9:30pm. I wasn't there and my aunt disregarded my instructions to put her back in her crib or at least to not leave the room. I got home 9:45 to find them both cleaning up the kitchen 

Anyways, she went right back to sleep when I took her back to her room. Then awake at 3am, 3:30am, 4am, and at 5am she didn't go back to sleep anymore. I'm sooo exhausted 

From 5 to 7am she kept trying to go back to sleep, but she just couldn't get confortable, so at 7am she started playing and forgot all about sleeping.

Suggestions??

[Layla]

Well my only suggestion is to try and talk to aunt about the consequences of staying past bedtime because in  all honesty I think her being awake till 9pm is what would have made the night much worse AND her innability to get herself back to sleep at 5am!

[Lissybits]

Oh dear! Poor you
I agree with Layla. You have to speak to your Aunt and explain very nicely why it is not a good idea to have DD cleaning the kitchen at 9.45
Lis
x

[jcjc205]

Well, I guess as long as I'm there during the night, I'll be able to take care of all the NWs. And I'll just have to live with bottle-to-sleep for naps...

My sleeptrainning method has morphed from PU/PD to GW. What we've been doing lately is: I rock her for a few min and then we both go inside her crib. Then she twists & turns for a while and then she calms down and I do Sh/Pat and she sleeps. It works ok in that she goes back to sleep, however, she needs me to be inside her crib to go back to sleep.

Last night we had NWs as follows:
Asleep by 7:30pm
NW1 10:00pm
NW2 1:00am
NW3 3:15am
NW4 5:45am - at which point I gave her a bottle
Up for the day 7:30am

Each NW it took her maybe 5 min to go back to sleep. Every time she was standing in her crib, so I got inside the crib and layed her down and used Shh/Pat

Thoughts/Suggestions??

[jcjc205]

one more question, how do I change the title of the post?

[Layla]

Hmmmm well you don't really want to be replacing one thing for another  .... how about you stay BY her cot rather than getting in there and shushing her like that instead. Woudl your arm fit through the rail? Could you pat her her back or rub her to settle her?


To change the post you just go into the very first post you wrote and no the top right corner you will see "quote" "modify", etc... Click on MODIFY and change the title. Or you can just tell us what you want to change it to and I can do it for you

[jcjc205]

Well...

last night was a good night. To bed at 7pm and asleep by 8pm with no crying, just crazy twisting & turning.

Only one NW at 4:45am. Gave her milk, she finished all 8 oz and was still awake and then some more turning and fell back asleep until 8am.

I'm thinking it may have been coz she naped very well (almost 2 hrs) and my aunt was able to just rock her to sleep, so no bottle.

I hope she keeps it up !!!

[jcjc205]

It has been 2 weeks since I started sleep training. And not once has she slept pass 5am, no matter what time she went to sleep.

She is sleeping at least 7 hrs straight, so it hasn't been a total disaster, but that means that the most I get out of those is 5 hrs.

I really, really need a full night sleep!!! 

When she wakes before 5am, I go into her crib/cot and calm her down. She then goes back to sleep only to wake up about 1 hr or so later. Depending on what time it is (if it's still before 5am) I repeat. If it's pass 5, I bring her to my bed and give her a bottle. She drinks all 8oz/250ml and then complains coz she wants more. She then sleeps until at least 7am, but sometimes later. If I don't give her the milk, she'll just cry and cry and not really sleep until about 7am, when she decides that it's time to wake up.

So she has obviously learned to soothe herself since: I've heard her complain and go back to sleep, she needs almost no help to fall asleep at bedtime (she does take a while though) and she sleeps 7 hrs straight. It's those early morning NWs that I need to fix.

She is also naping better and more or less transition successfully to 1 nap at least 1.5hrs long but usually closer to 2 hrs

Thoughts/Suggestions??

[finlays mam]

what time does she go down for her nap?

[jcjc205]

Well, she's not really on a schedule. Since sometimes she wakes up at 7am (like this morning) other times she sleeps until 8:30am, so she naps about 5 hrs after she woke up (aka, at 12pm if she woke up at 7am)

[finlays mam]

ew's can bring about a vicious circle!!  we've just gone thru 0515 wake ups and they were a killer....lots of sympathy for you on that one and we too still have nw's and Finlay is 20 months old anyhow, I figured fin was shattered from the ew's and hence he became OT early morning.  the thing is the earlier he napped the earlier he woke the next day, strange but true.  I've also read that the more OT they are for bed means that they fall into a heavy sleep very early on and then the nw's start...so you see the circle emerging?!!  anyhow, I pushed his nap time back so every other day i made him hang on 10 -15 mins more for his nap so....he used to sleep at 11ish til 1pm or 1030 on his early morning days and now i put him down at approx 12- 1230....whether it was just luck or the ew's had run their course, i'm not sure but he sleeps til 0630 now.

[jcjc205]

so put her down for nap at 12pm no matter what time she wakes?

[mari]

I think that you have come so far!!!!

You have got the nights more or less sorted, she just needs to get her daytime schedule on track.  Have you thought to wake her at 7ish regardless and then she might get on track eventually.

[jcjc205]

I know I've definetely made tons of progress. 

I guess I can give the 7:30am wake up call a try. I hate getting up that early though, but if it means a full night sleep. I'm all for it.

New Schedule:

7:30 - wake
12:00 - 2:00 nap
7:30 - bed

I'll let you know how it goes

Thanks again.

[mari]

Or, you could move the whole thing around to suit you.  What about 8am wake, 1pm nap, 8pm bed??  That way you get a lie in.