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Falling asleep on her own when going out of town
« on: May 22, 2008, 03:43:05 am »
Hello everyone, I have a 26 month old daughter who falls asleep on her own since she was 3 months old (after many months of teaching, and many ups and downs she has finally mastered falling asleep on her own since 20 months old).  She does it when she is in her bed at home, but as soon as we are out of the house, say visiting grandma or her aunt and uncle (spending the night out of town), she no longer feels secure, capable or comfortable enough to do it.  I understand that being away from her usual (bed, room, house, place), will make her feel that way, but the truth is we go out of town quite often, at least once every two months or so; and I would really love to have her go to sleep on her own also while we are away. So I am asking for advice on the best way to teach her to sleep on her own somewhere other than her bed, which techniques apply on this kind of situation.  I usually just tell her she is a big girl who can fall asleep on her own and that I am around , there is nothing to be afraid of, etc. But still I usually end up sitting on her bed waiting for her to fall asleep, which doesn't happen until an hour later or more.  And sometimes she can even be almost asleep and wake up asking for me again and again, so I can't get out of the room.   Since I am not used to this kind of situation happening at night when we are home, I usually don't have the patience it takes to just wait around, so I feel very frustrated when this happens, I'm sorry if it sounds kind of selfish.  Also we are going on a month and a half holiday to Southamerica next September and I think I'm really going to need this advice for then.
I appreciate any advice any of you guys send me. You guys are the best all the time.




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Re: Falling asleep on her own when going out of town
« Reply #1 on: May 26, 2008, 20:20:40 pm »
Thanks Stacy, I think that's a great idea.  I checked out the options you gave and are pretty cool, I think she will love it. I appreciate your advice, thank you so much.




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Re: Falling asleep on her own when going out of town
« Reply #2 on: May 26, 2008, 20:25:11 pm »
I think that's a great idea!  Then you can get her used to the travel bed before you leave.  Also use the same sheets on the bed a few days before you leave and put them on the bed when you're away.  And don't forget any comfort items she might have!





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Re: Falling asleep on her own when going out of town
« Reply #3 on: May 26, 2008, 20:29:55 pm »
Hugs.  I don't have any advice, my ds needs me to lie with him when we are away form home.  At this point I think the fight we would have when we are if I decided to make him go down by himself isn't worth it.  I 'd rather just give him this "treat" making sure he knows it is a treat, than have the fight. 
IMO it's worth letting him get little things like this when we are away, I think it makes being away a little more special.  I will keep checking back in though to see if there are any good suggestions on how to get him to do it himself.

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Re: Falling asleep on her own when going out of town
« Reply #4 on: May 27, 2008, 00:41:05 am »
Lorrie I understand what you mean, but I also worry a lot about getting her back on track when we come back from our trip to Peru. Do you think after a month and a half of lying down with her, she would know how to do it herself when we come back? How long would it take her to do it again?  It's been such a long process to teach her to fall asleep on her own, and so gratifying to actually have her do it, that I don't want to go back to it.




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Re: Falling asleep on her own when going out of town
« Reply #5 on: May 27, 2008, 01:03:43 am »
I see your problem.  I think that if you were to lie down with her for a month when you were away you would have some issues when you get home.  Are you staying at the same place the entire time you're in Peru?  If so, what about about using gradual withdrawl?  She might become comfortable enough that that would work.
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Re: Falling asleep on her own when going out of town
« Reply #6 on: May 27, 2008, 18:50:22 pm »
Neither is Enfys!  We've just come back from three weeks away, too, and another thing that I found worked well is if we arrived at our destination near bedtime (not naptime) and she was generally that tired from travelling (she doesn't sleep in the car) that she didn't really care she wasn't in her own bed.  We had brought her sleeping bag, a cot sheet from home, and her three lovies and she was fine. 





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Re: Falling asleep on her own when going out of town
« Reply #7 on: June 03, 2008, 18:17:53 pm »
So Stacy, we will be going to Peru next September for 6 weeks, we won't be in the same place, we will be travelling like each week to different destinations within Peru.  By then Marena will be 31 months.  At home she usually takes a 2 hour nap around noon, and sleeps through the night for 10 to 11 hours.  We are definitely going to buy the  Kidco Peapod plus (traveling bed) so she has something that is familiar throughout the trip, and she'll have her dolly she sleeps with and her paci.
What recommendations you have for us? What should we expect for this trip? Any good advice we might need...Thanks!!!




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