Don't know how to move on from here wi/pd

[yaya]

DD is almost 1 yr old and sleep training has always been an issue in that we never got there Well in the sense that she doesnt do what I want her to do I posted not long ago about this but we havent made any progress so I need some insight.
Basically she goes into her cot for sleep time (Bedtime is the worst) i walk out she lays still for a bit then fusses I leave her to it then she cries VEEERRY loudly and screams, I go in lay her down and walk out. she's ok for 5-10 mins then we repeat. This goes on until she passes out from exhaustion. She doesnt ast all expect to be pu but seems to need PD!?' I try and use words only but she goes crazy. I really dont know what to do. Today I stayed in there after an hr on wi/wo and just kept sayign enough, go to sleep! and she would lay down and eventually she went to sleep which got me thinking maybe some SA?
It's frustrating, I really want her to just soothe herself since really thats what shes doing anyway...she doesnt need me but doesnt understand that and it's getting dull now!
pls help TIA

[Colin Macs Mom]

I would bet some SA Michelle.

Going to move this to toddler sleep since E is about two seconds away from her birthday

[shelliz]

Michelle....can you believe a year has almost come and gone already?

   
It may be SA.  Joshua will play this game.  His is not SA though. He isn't that upset and I have found that after going in and pd'ing a few times it DOES become a game for him. As a matter of fact he will throw his body down as soon as he sees me coming in...lol.  He isn't really crying at all though. If/when it escalates I will go in and pd and recover. I don't talk to him and I don't make eye contact.  Can you put her down a bit early  (for a day or so) to compensate for the time she's spending awake in the crib. I would say just continue being consistant. If you don't think she is really crying out and needing you then let her be. She will get past this. HUGS!!


Shelby

[elmarie]

Michelle, Courteney started doing the same at this age.  Not sure what your dd's routine look like, but I cut our A ..to about 3.5h A before bedtime which helped together with a longer winding down routine (before this her bedtime routine was like 2 minutes  ) 

You can start by using gw.  Once at the door you leave the room.  If he starts crying then you do wi/wo.  I used to do a modified wi/pd/wo.  When my DD started crying I would then wait for 1 min (the 10/20 ect sec was too stimulating for my lo), so you must take your lo's temperament into consideration.  I would go in (because she would usually be standing at this point) and say "mommy loves you and Courteney needs to doedoe" put her down and leave even if she is still crying or standing up. However i only spoke to her the first time I went in after that I had no interaction with her I will then start timing again for a min,( in your dd's case it seems to be a bit longer before she starts crying).  The first time I did wi/wo it took more than a 1 1/2h, so I will stick to it and not stay at the cot.


What do you think? 

[yaya]

That sounds DEF what I need to do but that's really my prob... I can't get past the needing to be pd stage.. I try to talk to her and she goes crazy (and to answer previously Qs...nope def not a game for her, she is truly truly upset and I have tried to leave her longer...not nice)
LAst night we had guest for dinner and the kids were late going to bed so I just held her to sleep as I NEEDED to sort the dinner otu LOL and she went down a dream and (Almost) STTN! I think maybe it IS SA afterall....