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How do you get your toddlers to stay in bed???? HELP!
« on: September 12, 2008, 16:22:38 pm »
How on earth do you keep your toddler in bed.  A side from actually putting locks on the door (which I would never do) what is the trick.  My son is 20 mths and I think he is going to send me to the loony bin.  Nap time and bed time have gone out the window because he spends all of his time opening the door.  It's a game that can last for hours no matter how tired he is.  I'm afraid I am going to hurt him.  I am so tired (I have 4 mth old as well) and my patience is very short.  Please how can we all start to get some sleep again. 
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« Reply #1 on: September 12, 2008, 17:19:40 pm »
Have you tried a babygate or a baby door knob cover?

My ds at 18 months could climb a baby gate, and open the covers...honestly, if your patience is that short, and I have been there....you need to do what keeps him and you sane/safe....

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Re: How do you get your toddlers to stay in bed???? HELP!
« Reply #2 on: September 12, 2008, 17:39:20 pm »
Is the crib still available?  Can your 4 month old stay in a pack n play for a night or so?  With my son I put very appealing bedding on for him, truck sheets and he wanted to be a big boy in a big boy bed.  When he would go to get out of bed, I told him had to either stay in the bed or he was going back in the crib, those were his options.  Big boys stay in their beds, but babies have to be in cribs.  He wanted the truck sheets in the bed so bad he only tried a couple of times.  And each time he did, I put him in the crib, which of course made him upset.  I stayed with him and talked to him calmly, then once he was calm I asked him what he wanted, the crib or the big boy bed...  he chose the big boy bed.   ;D  I threatened the crib a couple more times when he started to climb out, but that was it.  Forgot to mention I have a video monitor so I was watching like a hawk.  Now he'll call me if he needs something or just to call sometimes ::), even in the middle of the night, but he doesn't get out of bed **knock on wood**!  Even at nap time, which mine is barely napping anymore.  He'll sit in his bed and read books.   ;D

I hope that helps!   :)
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Re: How do you get your toddlers to stay in bed???? HELP!
« Reply #3 on: September 13, 2008, 11:13:32 am »
Thank you for your advice.  Last night we put a kid proof handle on the door and that worked (aside from the 3am wake up!!).  But I feel like we are just prolonging the inevitable.  If we continue this way will he eventually just learn to stay in bed?  Did your little one eventually stay in bed? 
I would love to try the threat of going back in the crib but unfortunately he's been in a big boy bed for a while now and he would just crawl out ( he's a little monkey).  Well I guess only time will tell.
Would you guys happen to have any advice on how to schedule your second child.  I am having the hardest time and fear I have fallen into a nasty cycle of accidental parenting.  Nursing back to sleep through out the night and it's starting to backfire on me.     

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« Reply #4 on: September 13, 2008, 14:05:58 pm »
All I can say is be consistent.  If he gets up, put him back.  You might have some nights where you do it a lot, but if you keep doing it, he'll get there. :-* For mine, he did start to stay in his bed and still does today. 

As for your second child, have a look at this link to help with some ideas to get to a routine :)
http://babywhispererforums.com/index.php?topic=62100.0
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« Reply #5 on: September 13, 2008, 15:13:22 pm »
It's a concept that can be understood as they age. It was a LOOOOOONNNNNNNGGGGGGGG road for my ds but he was climbing out of his crib at a VERY early age...putting him back in wasn't feasible safety wise.

I agree with Stacy. Make his room as safe and as boring as possible...and if he falls asleep on the floor, so be it!

If the knob cover is working, then I think you've found some success!

My DD self-weaned the crib about 2 weeks ago...(which after our road with DS, I swore she wasn't coming out until she was 3)...and it has been MUCH MUCH MUCH easier. So I attribute that to age, willingness, and personality.

Good luck!