could he be scared of his bed???

[tracynben]

Hi everyone, been postin recently about toddler having troubles in his bed after at first sleepin great in it.
He always falls asleep on the floor, and has done every day now for at least a week, even at naps.
I am just wonderin could he be scared of it, he has fell out a couple of times in the night, im wondering if that could make him scared, BUT on the other hand when i put him day for bed and naps in his bed, he doesnt get upset, so i dunno?

im just tryin to figure what the problem is and why at night hes takin an hour - hour half to go to sleep

tracy xxxxxxxxxx

[meltown]

have you tried gradual withdrawl? 

[tracynben]

not really, to be honest i havent got the patience for that with being 34 weeks pregnant, and i like to have my evenings to myself, he is slower gettin better again, so i think what im tryin is working.
I know going in and out def doesnt work for us. My partner has stayed in his room occasionally until hes fell asleep, but taken over half hour, and hasnt got out of bed, but hes not always home in time to do it.

thanks though, i will consider it if it doesnt improve soon

tracy xxxxxxxx

[aidliz]

a half hour and not getting out of bed is great...imo.  and what you are doing is the start of gradual withdrawl.  Just keep staying with him for a few nights and then move closer to the door each night, or wait untill he is almost asleep and sneak out.  It worked with my dd, the first few nights were close to an hour.  It took about 2 weeks for us so you will have a few evenings to your self untill the baby comes.  I hope you get to enjoy them!!!

It could be he is anxious because he knows the new baby is comming.  Im sure you are very stressed and tired at bedtime and he could be feeding off that.  For me...at about 7pm I am done and just want everyone to go asleep so I can be alone.  How old is the little guy?

[meltown]

wow, half hour is good!  it was hour and a half when we first started it.  if what you are doing is working then keep it up.  but GW definatley sounds like it would work for you.

[deb]

Nat played ON her bed happily during the day but slept on the floor for a year before she slept IN the bed. (We had to tuck a blanket in at the bottom to make it like ours before she would consent to even try it.) Josie also went thru a phase of floor-sleeping for a few months. We went with it, and when they were ready, they went to sleep in their beds. Just wasn't a big deal for us here.

[tracynben]

hes nearly 26 months. He did use to sleep in it fine for 3 weeks straight no problems whatsoever, then overnight started gettin out and fallin alseep on the floor, and has done ever since for about 3 weeks now. Thing is i dont know what caused it, there have been no illness, milestonesor anything like that, imeither guessin he can sense something about the baby, or he just doing it cos he can.
I have been tryin different nap and bedtimes over the last few days so if nothing works in the next couple of weeks i might try the gradual withdrawal method, unfortunately im not very patient when it comes to this, my partner is much more patient, but like i said hes not always here to do it.

tracy xxxxxx

[deb]

LOL Stacy - I like your style!

[tracynben]

LOL
My partner and his dad suggested putting the mattress on the floor.
I presonally dont think it will make a difference but i guess there is no harm in tryin. Im actually not that bothered about him fallin alseep on the floor or playin in his room for a while, its just if he doesnt get enough sleep thats the problem, but for the last few days hes been happy enough, and today he just played in his room for abit, and i got him at 7 which was great.
Maybe im just expectin him to sleep more hours than he needs. On average i say he sleeps 10.5- 11 hours at night and 1, but mainly 1 hour 30 mins for his nap, hes nearly 26 months, which i think is about right for his age, hes mainly happy through the day, so maybe im worryin for nothing.

tracy xxxxxxx