Oh, so much to report, first, I'm sorry I forgot to answer you earlier, I am in the States, Kentucky. I spent yesterday doing BW with all your new info and tweeked the way I put him down and comforted him. The first nap, I tried for almost 2 hours to get him to sleep and eventually had to get him up to go get my son. I didn't pick up (he seemed extremely angry about that, screaming, awful) only put down with "time to go night, night" and "it's okay, we're only going to sleep". When he would sit up, if he was quiet, I would lay him down with the phrase and he would either start screaming again or he would roll over and crawl away from me. If he was not crying, I would leave. When he cried, I would return to comfort. I did this for both naps for the entire nap period. My problem with that was that he would scoot to the farthest corner from me so I couldn't reach him to pat so I tried to keep a hand on him whatever I could reach. IT really did seem to aggrivate him, he would take my hand and push it away or get distracted by it and start playing with it. I'm wondering if I should pat or even touch when he's writhing around and screaming. Then when he tries to settle, should I then pat or rub his back? Last night, I had to work hard to keep him awake while he took his last nurse before bed because he hadn't slept all day. He did fall asleep eating even after many attempts to rouse him, no hope. I still went through the little before bed ritual while trying to hold him up and when I put him in his crib, I patted for a couple of minutes. Then I went in after 20 minutes and tried wake to sleep, he did flinch but I was afraid he was so OT he would wake. After one hour, he woke, I tried to sneak in at the first sound and pat his back but he pulled up anyway, crying. It took me an hour and 45 minutes doing exactly what I was supposed to do. What finally did it was he flopped down on his side in his crib close enough to me so I could hold his hip with one hand and pat his back with the other. He had found his paci a couple of minutes before that so he laid there sucking while I patted firmly for about 10 minutes. He went to sleep. I sneaked in 2 times and did wake to sleep, then went to bed. At 12:45 he woke, I went in said the phrase, laid him back down, he popped back up. So I offered him sippy with water which he happily drank a good swallow or two. Then I resumed laying him down each time he got up. I could tell he was wiped because after about 20 minutes, he flopped down in the same place as before and I patted just like I did earlier. I went back to bed and he slept until 6:30. I woke with breasts so full of milk I was desperate to nurse. I went in and he refused one breast because it was so full he was confused. So I offered him the other and he ate happily and sleepily and dozed off as he emptied it. So I offered him the other, he refused again, so I laid him back in his crib and he sat up. I laid him down again and he sat up, meanwhile the light was beginning to peek around the darkened windows I hung towels over. So I got him up and as he slowly woke up, I changed his diaper and took him downstairs. He seemed weird the whole time, sort of confused and glazed over. I took him to may barely waking husband and told him I had to pump before I exploded. So he sat in bed with him and I pumped my painfully full breast, then offered it to him at which time he took it for a few minutes then emerged more like himself. We ate, dressed, played then ran 2 quick errands quick snack, breastfeed, then just got him down about 5 of 11. It took alot to keep him up during breastfeed but you could tell he was hungry and he ate well. After he ate while he was very soggy, I sat his up, burped and did the wind down turned off the lights, then in the crib, he woke up and started crying but laid there, I rolled him to his side and patted for about 7 minutes while he sucked his paci, and he was out! I hope it's a good nap, it's rainy which helps.
So today has gone,
6:30 wake, nurse
7:00 change diaper, a little play with daddy and brother
7:30 nibbled on cereal
8:00 dressed and played
9:00 ran errands with mommy while nibbling pretzels
10:30 breastfeed
10:55 asleep
Cross your fingers, I'll keep you posted.
Oh and I though that on days when my oldest is in school, I would try a morning nap but wake him early, feed him and put him in the car.
The problem with falling asleep in the car is that it's rare he does that unless we're going far, and it's 10 mintues their and 10 minutes to collect him then 10 minutes home so he can't sleep through all that. If he falls on the way home, I'll try to put him down but we'll see.
Thank you, thank you, thank you!!
Talk soon.
