13 week old won't sleep!

[ReagansMom]

I have a 13 week old LO who has been a great sleeper all her life.  We've been on a three hour routine for weeks and things have been great.  Until last week.  She went through a GS and was eating alot.  That seemed to pass and her eating has gone back to normal (she now eats more at each feeding).  However, her naps have gotten horrible.   She wakes up after 45 minutes, every nap.  I can go in and sh/pat to settle her down, but even with 30-40 minutes of sh/pat, she won't fall back into a deep sleep.  She's also started waking more at night and takes over an hour to settle again.  She takes a pacifer which helps quite a bit, until it falls outs when she is still in her light sleep.  I swaddle her for all naps and bedtime, but she can work her arms out of it when she wants to.  Here's our typical schedule:

7AM feed (BF)
7:15 Activity
8AM Sleep
10AM Feed (4-6 oz formula)
10:15 Activity
11 Sleep
1PM Feed (4-6 oz formula)
1:15 Activity
2PM Sleep
4 Feed (4-6 oz formula)
4:15 Activity
5:30ish Catnap
7 Feed (BF)
7:15 Activity
8 Bedtime
10 DF (BF)
1:30 or 2AM feed  (BF)

That's the "ideal" schedule anyway.  That hasn't been the case the last few days.  She's a really fast eater (always has  been), so that doesn't take much of her A time.  I wonder if her activity time needs to be extended, but she's pretty obvious with her sleeping cues and goes down easily.  Also, am I AP by going in when she wakes up after 45 minutes?  I don't want that to become a habit.  I'm really frustrated and tired and could use some advice!  Any thoughts are appreciated!

[anna*]

Hi Reagan's Mom! Welcome to the BW boards I have had so much amazing support and advice here, I know you will too.

45 mins naps are a pretty good indicator of undertiredness (UT), and at 3 months most LOs are managing around 1hr and 20-30 mins awake time (including all the time spent feeding and winding down to sleep), so it might be time to start pushing her A times? You could start by doing an additional 10 mins awake at each A time, doing something low key, like looking out the window, going for a slow, short walk in mummy's arms (even just around the house) or laying on mummy's bed just looking at each other and smiling/chatting. See how that affects her naps and then, in a few days, you could go for a further 10 mins if necessary.

I hope that helps

anna
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[jana224]

Anna said everything I was going to say:  definitely sounds like UT.  Once you get more A time into her you'll probably be looking at two good naps plus a catnap, and probably an earlier bedtime.
Good luck!

[ReagansMom]

Thank you so much for the info and support!  I will start increasing her A time today!  I really hope it works, Momma needs more sleep!  Thank you!

[anna*]

Let us know how it goes!

[ReagansMom]

So we are on day two of increased A time and it seems to be helping some.  She's now waking up after about an hour (instead of 45 minutes).  Maybe that will gradually increase??  I know, I need to give it more time too.  I've read a couple places on this website where people mention "developmental" wakings around this age.  She's really into her hands right now and is trying really hard to suck on her thumb or fingers.  Could that be contributing to our problem?  When will that go away?

 Also, she's been spitting up alot so I called her doctor.  He suggested smaller meals more often.  So for her 10AM feeding, I gave her 4 ounces, then she ate another 1.5 ounces at 11.  I then burped her and did our winddown routine and put her down.  I'm just worried that will become a habit.  I know I'm rambling.....I just don't know what else to do!  Any thoughts are very much appreciated!