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Really need help...
« on: May 11, 2009, 18:40:42 pm »
My lo will be 1 on 23rd may. He used to be a great sleeper, but recently has started screaming at bed time and sometimes wakes up soon after going to sleep (between 8-10pm wakings). We have been trying to get him to bed for an hour now but he is still crying. He has been awake since 2:45, so nearly 5hours!! I can't stand much more of this. As soon as my OH gives him to me he stops crying. My OH just hands him over to me every time he cries now as it's hopeless trying to calm him, he's so attached. I can't do this every time he cries, I'm worn out. He is clingly lately but this is excessive and it's getting to me... I really hope someone can help or tell me they have this bedtime problem too!!!  :( Julz x
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Re: Really need help...
« Reply #1 on: May 11, 2009, 19:28:57 pm »
Nine months is "supposed" to be the prime age for Separation Anxiety, but not all babies read the books and co-operate schedule-wise. ;D  Josie went thru hers around 11 months, and she NEEEEEEEEDED to be with one of us a LOT while she went thru it! To top it off she was growing molars (hard for them to be distracted from pain when they're all alone in the dark) AND she had a stomach virus and puked for a day and a half straight at the time. :P

If your LO is working on molars, try some pain meds about 15-20 minutes before bed and see if it makes a difference. If so, you're on to something, even if the pain might also be from a latent ear infection. (If teething isn't suspected but pain meds help anyway, take to doctor, 'cause not all ear infections have obvious symptoms other than an out-of-sorts child - voice of experience here, even at 7 years!)

Have you recently started a new food? If he's got a tummyache that popped up in the middle of the night, that's no fun. Also, we found that as our girls began walking (and running!) more, they would get leg cramps in the middle of the night; snuggling would sometimes help distract them, as would being held just the "right" way, but otherwise they'd be miserale. (Took us AGES to work out the leg cramps too!) There are homeopathic meds for leg cramps; check at a health food store. Hyland's makes one that says not to give to kids under 12, but we've given them to both our girls (almost-4 and 7) for about a month now and relief has been pretty quick in coming, to the point where we've given them at bedtime to PREVENT them if they've been running/biking/doing karate/otherwise doing more leg work than usual.

Anyway, a couple thoughts that might be worth checking into. :)

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Re: Really need help...
« Reply #2 on: May 12, 2009, 05:38:58 am »
Hey thanks for the advice. My lo is so clingy it's ridiculous, my OH now says on a daily basis "he doesn't want his Daddy anymore" which is obviously hard to listen to. Maybe it could be sep' anx' causing this problem. My OH was at work when I had to put lo to bed yesterday, and it went perfectly. Lo didn't cry at all. If he's being clingy towards me maybe I should do bedtime every night... right from the word go my OH has done the evening bit as he works nights anyway. He used to give lo a bottle in the night before work so I could sleep, so you would think he'd be more clingy towards his Daddy.
 On the topic of teething. His 1st 8 teeth all came through in one go at 6months which didn't affect his sleep at all, still slept 12hs at night without waking. No teeth at all in the last 5/6months. He has only shown a few signs of teething, nothing to make me think it's happening big time, but he has been rubbing at his ears the last few days too so I don't know!? Lo eventually gave in and went to sleep at 5h15mins A!!! X
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Re: Really need help...
« Reply #3 on: May 12, 2009, 05:44:49 am »
*Hugs* to you...
We are having a similar bedtime battle at a different milestone (15mo)
...hang in there honey, you're not alone!
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Re: Really need help...
« Reply #4 on: May 12, 2009, 06:12:25 am »
Ah thanks. It helps just to know that babies other than mine act like this. Books always give you a false sense of security when it comes to "what to expect"... hehe. I think I'll have to try to tweek his routine a bit and see if it helps at all xx
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