I'm not too sure it is reflux... I read the pages and he doesn't necessarily follow any of the signs. He's great, thankfully, at getting his wind up. (The only thing that he does do that might point to it is that he sometimes throws up his milk a couple of hours after drinking it.....). Even so, I have elevated the cot more (I'd already had it at an angle from when we first put him in it). I also keep him upright after his feeds for 20 minutes, just in case!
I've been really persevering with the ssh/pat technique, and thankfully it's paying off. When I get the window right, and I am getting better at picking up his cues, it normally takes me 5-10 minutes to get him to sleep. Sometimes only a minute or two. He often doesn't cry when I do it aswell - he tends to look at me and smile, in one last attempt to play with me, but I carry on ssh-ing, then he snuggles into his lovey and whimpers before falling asleep. So I'm really REALLY happy about that.
However he still doesn't sleep for very long. I've managed a couple of 1 hour- 1 hour 20s, but that tends to be for one nap every day/every other day. Today I even stayed with my arms over his shoulders and legs (he was still on his side) for the full 1 hour 15 minutes! He had 8 jolts in total.... unfortunately they were evenly spaced out from the 20 minute mark, so I don't think I could have left and come back in at "moments". And he did still wake up crying. I was desperate to try and make him sleep longer, but 1 hour 15 was his maximum!
Night times have regressed recently too. He used to recently be able to sleep from 7pm until 4.30 - 5.30 (where he'd then decide the day would begin) but for the last few days he's waking up from around midnight for a feed and then back to sleep for an hour or two before waking up for good!!!! Early mornings indeed. I tend to go in a ssh/pat him from then on in until 6ish but he sleeps for 20 minutes at a time in those early hours. It's getting quite hard!
I'll post you my day today and see what you think!
(Last night he fell asleep at 7.15pm)
E - 2.20am (bf)
S - 3.15
Woke at 5.15 and 'napped' with my help until I gave in and got up.
E - 6.30am (7oz)
A - until 8.10 (i handed him over to my husband after feeding so I could get some kip)
S - 8.20 - 9am
E - 9.00am (bf)
A - had his third set of jabs at the doctors so couldn't do my routine as I would have liked!
S - 11 - 11.30 am (fell asleep in the car and I stayed parked outside my house so as not to disturb him!)
A
E - 12pm (7oz)
A - kept it fairly calm until bed, when he went straight down
S - 12.55 - 2.10pm
A
E - 3pm (7oz)
A
S - 4 - 4.40 (just woke now....!)
A
I will then give him a bath at 5.30, then massage, then at 6pm bf and possible bottle top up should he want it. So he tends to fall asleep anytime between 6.45 and 7.15.
Out of curiosity, if he does wake after 20 minutes/half an hour what do you suggest I do....? I don't want to feed him any less than 3 hourly since I already want to extend it to 4 (once he gets more sleep in). I try and put him back down but it makes him pretty irate and just involves him screaming in my ear. I've also tried picking him up and quietly chatting to him in his darkened room for 15 minutes before putting him back in his cot..... again no luck!!!! On this website there's lots of advice of how to avoid the 20/30/45 minute naps but I can't seem to find anything about what the routine should look like whilst these short naps are occuring (other than keeping the next A time short...... but if the naps are constantly that duration what do we do?!!!).
The rest of the time he really is such a happy bunny, and very sociable. He just makes a fuss when I try and make him sleep when he doesn't want to. I'm pretty sure that as soon as I crack the day naps he'll be better at sleeping at night until the morning (or vice versa). I just don't know how to extend those naps!!! Even with me applying pressure for his whole sleep duration didn't seem to do the trick fully.
Could he be teething? He has his fist in his mouth at every available opportunity, and tends to fuss when breastfeeding, and often cries with the bottle (he wants the milk..... takes the bottle but after a few sucks starts crying whilst drinking. I don't think it's wind as I make sure I wind him very frequently, and he still continues to fuss even when a burp comes up).
Thanks so much everyone for all the help and advice. I am feeling a lot better recently. Just being able to get him off to sleep without too much hassle is giving me hope that things will improve. A week ago I thought I was going out of my mind, but now, although I am still VERY tired, I am enjoying my time with him again.
Laura