1 nap still not working

[*Jo*]

blast, dont ya hate it when that happens!! 

[babybarr]

blast, dont ya hate it when that happens!!

Yep - which is why I have started to copy my post before pressing the post button!

Jo I think that sounds great.  Good luck for tonight and glad you got a great nap.  I wouldn't worry about the patting until things have evened out a bit.

[Tweakster]

Jo it sounds great.  And it doesn't have to be forever, you can reevaluate when he's a bit caught up and sleeping in a bit later.

[*Jo*]

well last night went well, down to sleep at 6.50pm and up for the day at 5.50pm so it seems we are inching forward in 20min lots each day which i am happy with as long as it doesnt go backwards! lol hes majorly cranky today and now hes up to his normal A time amount, im a bit scared to keep pushing it for another hour and a half till 11.30 eeeeeeek, i need some hand holding today lol

[katie80]

I know you're really trying for that set nap time, so don't want to hinder that, but if you feel like he's just not going to make it, you could always go for 11:15 or so.  I've found that 15 min can really still make a big difference here.  Hope it goes well for you!

[alohahellokitty]

calebsmummy,

Just wanted to offer some encouragement. My LO is doing pretty good with fixed nap and fixed bedtime now. Its been a couple months of OT hell from teething and 2-1 transition. But it seems as if her body is figuring it out. Tonight she even asked to go to bed!!!!!!!!!!!!!! She kept saying 'tired, night night' and holding her bear. So I was like 'Do you want to go to bed'? And she crawled upstairs and into her bedroom!!!!!!!!!! I couldn't believe it!!!!!

I sure NEVER thought it would get worked out!!!!! Its been soooooooooooooooooo hard here!!!!! Ahhhhhh! And I have a new LO as well. Its funny that my toddler has been more work then my baby!!! LOL!!
Hang in there. His body will just 'get it' one day.

[*Jo*]

well i counted wrong! it had only been 4 hours A time when i wrote my last post! so ive just put him down to bed now at 11.30 and his total A time is 5 hours 40mins, so only actually 20mins more than normal and hes crying, he doesnt usually cry at all when i put him to bed so i guess hes not handling even 20mins more i think im gonna have to go in and pat him to sleep now.....

[babybarr]

Sorry to hear that Jo.  A question for you - is crying at nap time/bed usually OT?  Only ask cos when my DS started this I assumed OT but he actually was just stressing at me cos he wasn't ready for bed - but I don't know your LO. 

Hope you get him to sleep though soon. Xx

[*Jo*]

yeah crying at bedtime is OT for us, otherwise he goes to sleep fine. if hes not ready for bed he will cry as soon as i start wind down and get upset at me, thrashing the books out of my hands etc. the nap didnt go too bad, I did have to pat him to sleep but he slept 1 hour 15mins and woke up, i patted him again and he slept another 25/30mins so all up about 1 hour 40 nap, not too bad i think. i will see how the night goes and look at trying the 11.30am nap again, if he wakes up at say 7am tomorrow (oh please dear Lord!) do you think i should stick to the A time instead of the set time as 11.30am will be too early for a nap for him if he wakes up at that time.

[babybarr]

If he wakes at 7am I would do something in between the 2 - maybe don't push as much as today but obviously not the "set" time either.  Glad the nap went ok in the end.  Hope you have a good night.

[babybarr]

Hi hun, just wondered how things were going?  Hope no news is good news?

[*Jo*]

Yep so far so good we are back to where we were previously though, he fell asleep in the car yesterday at 4 hours 45min A time and so I transferred him to his bed and he slept 1.5 hours straight, so now I'm quite confused, 5 hours and upwards gives me a waking at either 50 mins or 1 hour 15 with a high chance of resettling and the possibility of a total of 2 hour nap, 4 hours 45mins gives me a full 1.5 hour nap with no wakings so it's very frustrating because I still don't think 1.5 hours in the day is enough however last night we finally got a 12 hour night, he's been giving us 10.5-11 hour nights lately.

So what do you think?

[*Jo*]

looks like i spoke too soon, a 4 hour 45 min A time today gave us a ..... you guessed it, a 50 min wake up and this time he didnt go back to sleep *sigh* this has been going on for months, what works one day doesnt the next, we cant do 2 naps anymore, he just simply wont have any more than one nap, not even APOPd. ive tried less A time, more A time, nothing really consistantly works. hes been so grumpy lately that he wont last until 5 hours A time so i just dont know what to do anymore

[babybarr]

5 hours and upwards gives me a waking at either 50 mins or 1 hour 15 with a high chance of resettling and the possibility of a total of 2 hour nap

This does suggest that he needs that little bit extra and the fact you had that silly waking of 50mins with the 4.45 A time

I think if it were me (and obviously it isn't!) I would do the slightly longer A time and resettle him to get him a 2hr nap and once I'd done this a week and thought he was caught up I would see whether wiwo would be an option to get rid of the resettling - if that makes sense?  I think you're right 1.5hrs is not long enough with a 12hr day.

[*Jo*]

Sounds like a good plan. Do you think I should start with 5 hours A time?