Hi there,
I'm trying to help my son with two things right now - independent sleeping and very short naps (he takes between 4 & 6 a day). Since I figured that it would be easier to extend his short naps if he could get back to sleep on his own I decided to set aside this week, not go out too much to make sure his A times were short and really concentrate on independent sleeping. He's 14 weeks old and has only ever been able to get to sleep without pat / shush a couple of times (and this was only from week 8 onwards, before that he was falling asleep on me / in the sling etc). So I'm trying this week to withdraw pat/shush so that he can start to learn how to do it on his own - I would have done it before now but he's sometimes completely regressed and wouldn't even respond to pat/shush.
It started off really well with nap 1 this morning, he only needed a minimum amount of shushing and no patting, nap 2 needed quite a bit of shushing, nap 3 he didn't need either - just my hand on his arm, nap 4 he completely freaked out and I had to abandon to feed him and then nap 5 he started crying as soon as we got in the nursery, had a freak out, finally calmed down in my arms and kind of collapsed when I put him in his cot (he must have been really, really OT by this point).
I'm really worried that I'm going about this wrong and that if he has too many of these freak outs that I’m just going to have a harder time settling him in future. Am I doing the right thing? Do I just have to be patient and he’ll get the idea of what he has to do and will stop fighting it? Any comments really gratefully received; I’m so worried that either I’m going to go completely down the wrong path or that we’ll need to take drastic measures to teach him how to sleep on his own.
T so much IA
Here's his EASY for today
Wake 6.15
E 7 (I didn’t realise he was awake, he doesn’t cry)
A 6.15 – 8.05 (1hr 50 incl 15mins settling)
S 8.05-8.40 (35 mins)
A 8.40 – 10 (1hr 20 incl 30 mins settling)
S 10-10.40 (40 mins)
E 10.40
A 10.40-12.10 (1hr 30mins)
S 12.10-12.50 (40mins)
A 12.50-3.50 (3hrs incl failed nap attempt which went from 1.50-2.30 & 30mins settling for nap 5)
E 2.30
S 3.50-4.20 (30mins)