1 yr old suddenly waking up at nights

[lokloktang]

so my DD started STTN the night she turned 1 month old. Recently, I returned to work and she's being babysat by my dad. Her routine now is very good and consistent: 

Wake up 6:45
Nap 1: around 10-11:30
Nap 2: around 3-4
Betime around 8:30

but she's been waking and crying once or twice each night (around 2:30 and 4:30)....

I have many friends who have gone thru this and built a bad habbit of rocking them back to sleep or co-sleep with them. In fear of building ANY bad habbits, I just let her CIO.. usually takes 10 mins then she'll fall back to sleep. From previous not-so-good experience, if I go in and pat her or pick her up, it usually takes much longer than 10 min for her to fall asleep again.

Is letting her CIO for 10min really bad? I don't know if there is something she needs, or she just wants someone to pat her back to sleep.....

[Tweakster]

HI there, I've just popped this to Toddler sleep for you since LO is over 12 mths.  You officially have a toddler now - we'll get some eyes on here to help you out.

[*Becky*]

Hi there,
Tracey Hogg, the Baby Whisperer did not condone any form of CIO or CC as she believed there are other effective but gentle ways to get lo's to sleep. It is not something that is supported on these boards but let's see what we can do to help.

Is she teething?

That would be my first thought but from looking at your routine it seems she does have a long day. I think it might be worth aiming for more like a 12 hour day to see whether it suits her better. She may be getting a bit OT.

She is more than likely starting the 2:1 transition. Have you thought about how to tackle this? Most mums choose a short am nap and a longer pm nap but you can do the other way around if that suits you and her better.

I think for the next few days it would be worth bringing bedtime forward a little to around 8pm to see if that helps.

Then if it were me I would shorten that am nap a little and then shorten the next A and then let her have a longer more refreshing pm nap. I can post a sample routine if you like but let me know if that is something you want as you may prefer to keep the longer am nap.

Becky x

[lokloktang]

hi, I know CIO or CC are not supported here, but I find that if I go in to shu/pat or pupd or wiwo she gets alot more angrier.. and even when i try to carry her or rock her, she arches her back.  could it be mantra cry and therefore it's ok to CIO? how do u know what's mantra cry and what's not?

re: early bedtime, the difficulty is I get off work 5, by the time we get home is 6, then I still need to heat up her dinner, feed her, play a little, then bf and bath her. By then it's around 8:30.

So u think she's ready for 2-to-1 and that's why she's waking up at nights? but my dad (who babysits her now) said she is tired at 10am and 3pm... before I went back to work (2 weeks ago) she never napped over 1 hour for both naps.  Should I cut back on nap 1 even though it seems like she needs it?

[*Becky*]

for now i would not cut back on the naps as she is probably OT so we need to help her catch up. I think she is waking at night due to OT, not 2:1 but it is something that you probably will need to start thinking about.
For now my advice would be to bring bedtime forward but if you can't do that then it is a little tricky.
have you checked her teeth?

[lokloktang]

she's been forever teething.. but she never had any problems.. she now has 8 teeth...
last night I tried to bring BT earlier (bit by bit, so 8 instead of 8;30)... and it took us a while to get her to sleep.. but she didn't wake up at 2:30.. just at 4:30 (which is 5;30 before time change).. an din the past I usually feed her at around 5-6, and let her sleep again for another 1-1.5 hours....

so her dinner is at 6:30, bf at 7:30, usually wakes up at 6:45.. if she wakes up at 4am or 5am... is it becos she's truely hungry? or is it because I've built a bad habbit of nursing her to go back to sleep?

[*Becky*]

looks like the earlier bedtime might have helped - that's great.
unless she is eating very small amounts I would doubt she is hungry tbh and it is probably worth trying to get rid of that early bottle as it def will not help with the EW's.