Hi there! There is a BLW support thread if you want to talk to more moms who do this with their LOs. They can reassure you about choking as well.
http://babywhispererforums.com/index.php?topic=184657.0The theory behind BLW is that a baby will not eat something if he is not developmentally ready to do so. So you can put a big chunk of food in front of your baby, but if she's not ready he won't try to eat it. With BLW, what you want to do is offer very large chunks, or long stick pieces for baby to chew on. In the beginning, all they are doing is learning the basics of eating so things like coordination in getting food to their mouths, using their tongue to move it around, chewing, and eventually swallowing.
A baby's gag reflux is very sensitive to protect against choking, which is why babies gag so easily. This is totally normal and what baby is made to do. As baby learns how to manipulate and eat food, the gag reflux lessens. A lot of this is instinctutal and happens naturally. Baby learns to pick up food and get it into mouth, learns to bite and chew, then as he learns to swallow the reflex starts to diminish.
Remember the point in the very beginning is food exploration, not swallowing everything put in front of her. So left to her own devices, baby will explore and play with food until she figures out how to eat it on his own.
What you do want to avoid are pieces of food that are the right size for choking, about the size of a grape. And of course if something can be bitten off to that size, it's probably not appropriate. With true BLW you probably don't want to give baby a slice of apple that she can bite off and choke on, but you can give baby the whole apple to gum at with her gums or scrape with her teeth.
Babies who are weaned with BLW actually learn how to eat safely faster. With a spoon you are depositing food right to the back of baby's mouth. But with BLW they learn all the skills they need to bite, chew, and swallow. Babies who BLW have less issues with lumpier foods and texture than babies who start with really smooth purees.
HTH
