Squish can't eat off a plate or out of a bowl. She loves them, but has to pick them up, throw all the food on her highchair tray, and play with them. Then she might put some of the food back on and have herself a little giggle. Eating doesn't feature.
So generally with finger foods, I have her food on a plate on the worktop (out of her reach!) and I'll pass her bits when she's ready for them. That way she lashes through the food (she loves finger food as long as it's crispy on the outside, soft in the middle, not too hot, not too cold, and not bland).
I'm just making things worse for myself, amn't I? I suspect I just need to let her get on with throwing stuff everywhere till she gets over the novelty of it all?
I haven't even thought about cutlery yet...