dd2 is almost 6 mos and is having those nasty 45 min naps. I'm pretty sure it's not an A time issue, but is developmental. Because I have dd1 around, going in and spending time doing w2s and httj just isn't an option right now. so, when she wakes at 45 min, I can sometimes go in and pat/shh and pu/pd to extend. However, I don't always know when to go in, she'll fuss, but not really cry that "I need you cry" or she'll cry out once and I'll say "ok, time to go in", but by the time I get to her bedroom, she's quiet. Then in 5 min, she'll do the same thing again. So it often never escalates into the full on "I need you" cry consistently. When do I go in? I've tried leaving her, and sometimes she'll go back to sleep on her own, and sometimes she'll just do that fussy or one cry out til the next feeding time, at which point I get her up. But then she's only had a 45 min nap, and then I feed her, and it's time to put her right back down again.
Should I go in earlier even if it's not a full blow I need you cry? I haven't been, because if she's trying to settle herself, I don't want to interfere. But then do I continue just letting it go til the next feeding time? Or is there a certain length of time that you'd say "ok, now I'm going in even if she's not full on crying"?
