Talking about the day's events at bt..

[koe2moe]

Just wondering if other LOs do this.  DS started talking about all the little things that he did after we put him in his cot, in the dark.  Either DH or I has to be there.  He could go on for a good half hour and sometimes longer.  It's very sweet but bt is getting later and later.  DH and I have been trying to get him to talk about his day at other times but he just won't. 

I know it's probaBly time to cut the nap a bit but he is just not ready for no nap. 

Has anyone gone through this?  Please tell me it's just a phase.

TIA, Koe

[Roseii]

Koe do you think he is UT? But I do think it's v normal Could you set a timer and say we'll talk for 5 mins until the bell goes or something? X

[koe2moe]

We are trying to avoid UT by pushing bt later and later.  He has very dark under eye circle, though. 

I think that he needs to get it out of his system to clear his mind and calm down.  I wonder if this is normal as in they all do it? Or its a phase? 

Are there ways to encourage him to talk earlier?  We tried from dinner time, after dinner, bath time, story time.. He just won't talk about his day until it's dark!! Lol

[Shiv52]

CAN you do bedtime earlier to accommodate his need to chat? 

[koe2moe]

Yes we did that and it ends up with it being longer and longer.  So that would be UT related also. 

[Roseii]

I know you don't want to but maybe it's nap capping time? (not cutting just capping) And I was going to suggest same as Shiv-earlier bt to accommodate the chat! Timer? xxx

[momtonb&ab]

We always have lots of chatter to us at bedtime.  We have added a 'talking about our day' part to WD and over time have been able to get it down to 'favorite part of the day' on days when bedtime needs to be sooner.

It is really normal I think

[koe2moe]

Thanks for all your replies.  I have tried capping on the weekend and limited to 30-45min car naps but still couldn't get him to fall asleep earlier even when we put him down early.  Even once it ended up, with all the chatter, later  

If capping is the way to go, shouldn't I be seeing results almost right away?

[shivi]

Oscar still does this now - we have to allow at least 20 mins for it. And its one of his fave things in the day ;-)

I think you need to consistently cap the nap to see results...

S x

[Roseii]

No I think nap capping needs a good few days. But with dd1 I ended up needing to be tougher because she WAS tired but playing up and I was mistaking that for UT and pandering to it a bit iykwim x

[koe2moe]

Oh thanks!!  It is indeed super sweet to hear his view of the world.    we had a 30 min nap today and short night, so we will do early bt.  FX

[nosenose]

Finn has been doing this for ages now. I will often ask him how his day went and he chatters, telling me all about it in his very broken confusion of words, but he seems to know what he's talking about. I love it

But for us, it's only BEFORE he goes into his bed and it got somewhat replaced by books recently. Even more recently, he'd been so zonked at bedtime that we don;t even do that, he wants his bed.

[koe2moe]

lol, Tom!!  we dont have that luxury.  We are delaying nap drop as DS is tired but the con is that it takes him ages to fall asleep and our bt is more likely 9 or later which is too late as  dont get a break :p 

I tried many times to get him to talk and i even started something called "family time" to all lay on a big bean bag and each takes turn to tell what they did that day.  Ds wanted to lie between DH and I but once i started talking, he had two shares and he got out! lol  i can persevere this route but still cant stop him from chatting in the dark and wanting us there.  He just laid there and even if he is trying to sleep, when he cant, he would say "mommy?" i say yeah sleepy time, he will just say so and so threw sand today.  it is super sweet as i can make out 90% of wht he is telling, knowing his perspectives and what he did with his friends. 

we also started tryng no nap and no go.  no longer nights and still long bt!!!  arghhhh 

[Roseii]

Really Koe he's still having a late BT with no nap? How about if you run him ragged in the day-playing outside and the like? No nap days here are generally 11.5 hours, sometimes 12 if that helps...xx

[koe2moe]

Thanks, Charli!!  That was what my plan of yewterday was, 11h30 A.  Yesterday it took more than half an hour for DS to fall asleep!!!  If I let him run too much or get too excited which was last sunday, he fell asleep at 5:30 for about 10 mins and we juwt couldnt wake him and he didnt fall asleep until 9 even though we put him in bed 8:15!!   It is really draining to wait for himt to fall asleep! 

Is it possible that he could do more than 12h A with no nap?  But surely on nap days (daycare days), he still naps a good 1h-1h30 and bt at 9!  Unless his body clock is so set on 9 to fall asleep!!  Clock is changing and perhaps there is hope for us!!!  He was waking at 7, so he did have almost 11h but its not enough.