Stuck with NWs and I'm fed up.

[*Becky*]

It is totally understandable hun. I also don't have friends who can help and getting out and about with 2 (one of whom is going through an aggressive phase) is very hard. You are not alone. And I have struggled with M and her sleep since day 1.
I would give Sara's suggestion a go. I always find it better to follow a plan. If it does not work then we can try something else. Try and stick with it for at least 4-5 days.

[ENMS]

HUGS Anna!

[anna*]

Thanks ladies. I am so depressed. It is tiredness. A nap or a night's sleep (my mum had her Sat night) helps but only until the next bad night. I think Audrey is getting a bit stressed too because I don't really want to interact with her :`( and 3hrs A time is a long time when we are not enjoying each other's company

My mum has taken her away for a bit, I feel guilty because she does too much for us and I know it causes friction with my step dad.

At this point I would be THRILLED to just have 1 or 2 night feeds to deal with. It's the night feeds AND the extra wakenings together that are getting to me. Last night I was up with her from 1.30 til 3, then couldn't get back to sleep myself until nearly 4, then she was up again at 6.

[*Becky*]

that is hard
I find it better to go out with M when I feel like that. Today I forced myself to go to an under ones group for half an hour. I knew noone but M had fun and I enjoyed her and appreciated the sweet little thing she is....staying in I am bored to tears most days and so is she probably! We have just started tumble tots and that too is fun and helps us get through the EW's and Nwings...

[anna*]

So today went
7.10am A
10.15am S
11.20am A
2.15pm S 30mins, then 30 mins to resettle, then back to sleep for another hr
4.15pm A (this is too late to wake up really, but she was with my mum who has no concept of looking at a watch or setting an alarm)
So I guess I will make bedtime 7.15pm

[*Becky*]

sorry - just seen this. How was bedtime?

[anna*]

It was fine, thanks, but she always goes down fine it's just question of how long til the wakings start. I was going to put Stan in my bed and I would sleep in his toddler bed, but he insisted on going in his own bed. Really hope tonight isn't like last night, else he'll be awake for hours in the night too. I've just got no way of settling her if she wakes when it's not time for a feed (and I don't even really want to feed her because she won't take any milk at breakfast).

[londonlady]

(((Hugs.))) Take it she's AP proof then (Sofia was too - so I really feel for you.) xxx

[anna*]

She will go back to sleep if I hold her - but wake up again within a few minutes if I lay her back in her cot.

[anna*]

I've just had another friend suggesting she's really OT and to try some super early bedtimes... ugh it's all so confusing. How do you tell?? Audrey, please tell me what's going on...

[londonlady]

To be honest, your current A times are not all that far off where we are at 10 months but Sofia has always been behind the curve on A times so we're probably not a very good benchmark...  I know we would have been OT if Sofia was doing Audrey's day, so we got through the CN drop with super early BTs.

R. x

[ZacsMumme]

Anna, for sure try an EBT, but I really think as hard as it is whatever you try you need to give it a good 4-5 days for A to adjust. Then re-evaluate KWIm?

So many hugs. I, so sorry you are feeling so low. Have you talked to DH and your mum about how your feeling? Xx

[anna*]

I know.

[lauraweb]

Hugs Anna, so sorry that you are going through such a hard time. Wish I could offer some advice but we really just muddle through here! One thing though that I think helps is to have a plan and stick to it for a few days - as Sara has suggested. At least that way you feel you are trying something and have some control of the situation (that's what I find anyway) Hope you are doing ok.

[anna*]

Last night she slept... Beautifully. The best night since she was born. Probably a fluke and I am still dog tired, but I'm grateful for it.