20 months -wi wo advice needed

[Jess_C]

Hi
 
Dd has been waking up once a night for a week wanting to be carried coz I think I over carry her when she had pneumonia. Her naps r fine for 2 hrs and goes to bed on her own. The trouble is she wake ard 2 or 3 am wanting to be carried.


So yesterday, I tried wi wo for 1.5 hrs before she finally slept. For they first time in ages, I nvr carry her and rock  her to sleep. I hope i hv done wi wo correctly.  I go in tell her lie down and wo and after 5 secs when her cry is distressed I wi again and wo . Initially, she will sit up or even stand, but after awhile she ll lie down when I wi, but every time I wo she cries really loud and it almost feel like she ll nvr calm. So in th end, after  wi wo for maybe an hr plus , i wi and stayed there till she sleep. I prob stayed for 10 mins.

Am I creating another prop which is my presence? Should I just wo? What should I do?

[dnvrmama]

Hi Jess,
I've only done WIWO a couple of times so I don't have the most experience, but I did want to offer that if she cries you should definitely go back in.

Are you sure she isn't teething? That is very similar to the behavior we have with our 19MO when he is teething. With the molars sometimes we didn't even feel the teeth coming in but figured out a week later it was a teething issue when the teeth finally erupted.

One other idea that has worked for us is to re-do the going-to-bed routine. This, for us, worked better when my DH did it. Sometimes we could just do the song and cuddles and sometimes we'd have to back up all the way to reading a couple of books to get the setting, then going through our good-byes, song, and cuddles. Then it almost always worked.

Best of luck to you!

[Jess_C]

Anybody else got wi wo experience? Am I doing it right

[*Becky*]

Hi there,
Great advice from pp.

Ok, so with WIWO you are listening carefully to the cry the lo makes. It is NOT time based i.e. you do not wait for a set amount of time before going in. That would be CC which BW is strictly opposed to. There is a big difference.

With WIWO you listen carefully to the type of cry the lo makes so if she is mantra crying or fussing or generally not distressed you leave her to it as she is self settling and going in can actually disrupt that. If lo is genuinely upset then you go in and reassure. Some people say a sleep phrase, some replace a lovey and then you leave. Repeat, repeat, repeat.

Have you tried any pain meds if you suspect teething? In all honesty I do not usually suggest WIWO if lo is teething but as long as you know she is not in pain then it is ok.

Is it always 2-3am that she wakes?

Does that help?

[Jess_C]

Hi


Yup is always around 2 to 3am. So on day 2 she didn't wake up. I am not sure if it is coincidence. I should see how day 3 is and update u all.


How do u all know is teething? She stops cring when I carry her. So it can't be teethinh

[*Becky*]

How do u all know is teething? She stops cring when I carry her. So it can't be teethinh

Can you see in her mouth at all?
Teething signs here are strange nappies, more whiny, NWings, SA (which is why they often are better with cuddles and reassurance)
I would try pain meds when she wakes at that time and see if it helps.

[dnvrmama]

Hi Jess,
How are things going?

Did you try meds? Did you nail down if the wake up is at a specific time? If so you could do a W2S.

As far as teething, our symptoms are like Becky's. Lots of separation anxiety so we do lots of nursing and cuddles. There are also night wakings and/ or trouble going to bed and going down to nap and short naps. It gets all kinds of crazy around here