14 month old sleep nightmare HELP

[Gigi5404]

My DD has become a monster at bedtime. I had issues early on with her and sleep and posted back then in the under 12 months sleep section, got great advice which really helped but over the past few weeks (since Christmas) things have gone from bad to unbearable.
Her routine is 7am wake
7.30am breakfast (cereal or toast)
9.30am snack
11am lunch
11.30 put down for nap but usually not asleep until 12
2pm wakes from nap
2.30pm snack
4.30pm dinner
5.30pm snack (she is like a seagull moving from me to my hubby to our son scavanging off our dinner)
6pm walk in pram
6.30pm bath/quiet time
7pm bottle
Then the fun starts! Most nights its 2 hours before she falls asleep. At nap time she is wrapped in a blanket with her arms out and at nighttime she wears a grobag (because she always escapes the blanket during her nap and I thought she would associate the blanket with a nap and the grobag with a big sleep). When I put her in the cot with her teddy, she is happy to lie there for a while but it always leads to the teddy and her dummy being thrown out of the cot, her standing and shaking the cot, crying and then hysteria. I've tried everything I can think of. If i sing or shhh her, she thinks its funny. If i try to give her a pat on the back or stroke her arm she pushes my hand away, if I try to cradle her she scratches my face or neck, pinches or pushes me away, if i just sit by her cot she laughs and says 'helllloooooo', if i leave the room, she screams blue murder. Once shes asleep, she stays down all night which is great but this going down business is exhausting. My son is 8 & missing one on one time because I'm dealing with his sister. Nothing (except school holidays) has changed in our home routine but she is a very nosey/sociable child, always waving and saying hello to everything and anything.
Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated 

[*Becky*]

Hi there,
How long has she been on 1 nap? Do you think she may be OT? That can happen when lo's first transition.
Is there any teething going on?

Have you tried a slightly earlier or later BT to see if there are any OT or UT issues?
Does she do this at naptime - the crying etc?

Sorry for all the questions - just trying to get the full picture.

[Gigi5404]

Thanks for the reply-I'm really struggling with her.
She's been on one nap for a a few months now as our old system was that she would fall asleep on the way back from school in the morning and sleep for 40 minutes then have a big 2 hour nap around 1pm. Once she stopped falling asleep in the car, I tried to get her down when we got home but she was having none of that so I just moved her daytime nap to 11-11.30 and this has gradually moved to half an hour later.
She has 8 front teeth and her two top back molars came through about 2 months ago. Teething has never bothered her but she drools alot more and has rosy cheeks when she's teething so it doesn't appear to be an issue right now.
I've tried earlier and later with the same result. I've always been really strict about routine as I know it was so important with my son so everything has pretty much been the same since she was 3 months old.
At naptime, she goes in the cot no problem and drifts off within a few minutes.
She also has a huge appetite so she's well fed and never wakes overnight hungry.
I thought today I would try to role plsy going to sleep in the cot with her dolls so she can see how she should be doing it. I also thought I might start winding her down a bit earlier but her brother is very loud and forgets to be quiet in the lead up to her bedtime so I'm thinking of sending him outside with his dad as it's daylight savings here and doesn't get dark till 9pm

[*Becky*]

I would try having her asleep for 7.30pm rather than 7pm. Most toddlers are on a 13 hour day with a 2 hour nap so her day is pretty short....see if 30 mins later makes a difference x