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12 month old refusing Bedtime.
« on: April 15, 2013, 09:19:19 am »
Hi,

I have a 12 month old who has been on E.A.S.Y since day 1, some bumps along the way but it has went well.  Since she turned 1 year she has started to refuse to go to bed at night.  She is having one nap a day usually 11:30am-1:00pm, bath at 5:30pm, wind down and bottle, Bedtime is around 6:15pm/6:30pm.  For the last week she has screamed at bedtime so we have got her back up and she has run around and played happily until 7:30pm, when I give her more milk and then she goes to bed.  The last two nights she has needed rocked to sleep which she hasn't needed before, accidental parenting is creeping in all over the place, which I don't want.  Where am I going wrong?

I was going to change her bedtime to nearer 7:00pm tonight and if needed I will start the PU:PD, not rocking.  Any suggestions would be appreciated.
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Re: 12 month old refusing Bedtime.
« Reply #1 on: April 15, 2013, 09:44:18 am »
Just moving you over to toddler sleep as your LO is now one :)
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Re: 12 month old refusing Bedtime.
« Reply #2 on: April 15, 2013, 20:10:33 pm »
Thank you.
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Re: 12 month old refusing Bedtime.
« Reply #3 on: April 15, 2013, 20:28:04 pm »
What time does she get up in the morning and does she STTN?

It seems odd she would be ut at BT at that age after a relatively early nap.

Do you think she could be OT and having a second wind?  How long has she been on one nap? Maybe a slightly earlier BT or slightly later nap would help'.
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Re: 12 month old refusing Bedtime.
« Reply #4 on: April 15, 2013, 20:57:24 pm »
Hi,

She gets up at 6:40/7:00am some mornings but she does ew at 5:30am as well sometimes. She went to bed tonight at 6:30pm no problem but woke 1.5 hrs later screaming and I had to rock her back to sleep.

Sorry what is sttn?

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Re: 12 month old refusing Bedtime.
« Reply #5 on: April 15, 2013, 21:16:23 pm »
Hi,
STTN = sleep through the night.

EW and waking soon after BT can be signs of being OT. Is she getting less total sleep now than she used to on two naps?

Do you think she could be teething at all?

I would suggest trying a slightly earlier BT to see if that helps. You could also try moving her nap a bit later if you think she can last til then. That way, she might nap longer and/or have a shorter A time til BT so less likely to be OT at BT.
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Re: 12 month old refusing Bedtime.
« Reply #6 on: April 16, 2013, 04:51:58 am »
Hi,

Yes she has been sleeping through the night since she was 8 weeks.  She is getting less daytime sleep with the one nap, she used to have 2 naps of 2 hours each, now she is having one nap of 1.5 hours or sometimes 2 hours.

I will try and move her nap today and see if she will nap longer. I think I've rushed the moving from 2 naps to one, just like the baby whisperer book says it has came back and bit me on the bum because she was dealing with ok at first but now everything has stopped working.

She goes down for her nap no problem but resists at BT, I have been reading her all wrong, I feel awful because she must be so OT and I have mistook it for UT and gave her less sleep.  :(

I think she has been teething on and off as well, she has her fingers in her mouth a lot especially at the side, she does have 8 teeth and some have came in no problem and others have given her a lot of pain, runny nose and sore bottom.

I have got up early this morning to prepare for the day ahead, hopefully she won't have an EW and I can extend her time before her nap. If she does EW I will give her a cat nap this morning and then try for a longer nap in the afternoon.

You ladies are a huge help, you really do help with your advise, I have read The Baby Whisperer books, watched the shows and read the forums but you really do help us stressed out mums see where we need to be, it's like someone takes your hand and guides you through.

Thanks again for your reply x
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Re: 12 month old refusing Bedtime.
« Reply #7 on: April 16, 2013, 13:09:11 pm »
yes, with such a big drop in daytime sleep she is most likely OT.

Don't be afraid to go back to offering two naps for a few days (or longer) to help her catch up again.  You might need to go through a while of some days doing 1 nap, others 2, until she can consistently give you a good long single nap and last the day without getting OT.

have a good day :)
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Re: 12 month old refusing Bedtime.
« Reply #8 on: April 16, 2013, 20:34:04 pm »
Hi,

Today has been up and down. She had a cat nap at 9:30am this morning and then a nap 12:30pm-2:30pm. She was a lot happier all day but she put up a huge fight at bedtime 6:30pm, it took me over an hour to get her to sleep, she was screaming, she has slept since though, I know she was OT.

How long should her nap be when it is one nap?

I know things don't fix in one day but that was awful at BT tonight.  :'( :'(
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Re: 12 month old refusing Bedtime.
« Reply #9 on: April 17, 2013, 07:41:02 am »
Ugh - screaming BTs are horrible but pleased she was happier overall yesterday.  Stick with 2 naps for a while and she will catch up.

Re nap length when on one nap, it can vary from 1.5 to 3 hrs depending on the LO.

Since your LO had such log naps before I'd expect her to be at the higher end of this. Although it will depend on how much (if any) extra sleep she can add on to her nights.
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Re: 12 month old refusing Bedtime.
« Reply #10 on: April 17, 2013, 19:53:40 pm »
Today has been mixed, she had daycare and only slept for one hour :( she is in daycare tomorrow as well so I can't control her nap times which doesn't help with being over tired.

She went to bed just after 6:00pm tonight, she didn't put up a fight and so far she hasn't woken up again, fingers crossed she sleeps all night but I do think we still have a long way to go before she is well rested.  She is only on daycare 2 days a week so I hope that I can get her back on track on the other 5 days that she is with me.
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Re: 12 month old refusing Bedtime.
« Reply #11 on: April 17, 2013, 20:35:09 pm »
Can you ask daycare to give her two naps tomorrow? There must be others her age still on two naps?
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