18mth old regression. HELP needed urgently!!! Please xx

[4 under 5]

Oh my gosh really?? She used to have a morning nap for one hour then an hour in the afternoon but I thought she should probably be cutting down. Will give her an earlier bed tim tonight for sure.

Can I ask if she's up at 7.30 am what sleep time would you recommend ?

[HenaV]

Don't forget, they are all different. Your LO may need less than R did at this age. With a 7.30 WU, I'd probably shoot for 12.30 depending of course on how the night was. Can you post your last 2/3 days WU/nap/BT and What the nights have been like. Might be easier to help then with what you could so
With the day.

The 18sr is painful, I can't dress it up. Whatever you end up doing, you must stay consistent to ride this difficult time out 

[4 under 5]

Thanks for your help. I appreciate it. I thought having the newborn would be the hardest part but its actually my 18mth old. She's got high temperatures along with the teeth and tonight I noticed her throat red raw. I'm not sure if that's from all the screeming and crying she was doing or maybe its part of an infection or something. Ill keep an eye on her.

The last two days routines are as follows:

Fri

8am wake (after being up thursday night for 2 hours)
10.30am nap
11.30am wake
3.15 nap
4. Wake
7.30 bed
4.30am wake
6am



Sat

8am wake
12.50pm
3pm wake
7.45 bed time

Who knows what the night will bring..........

[Shiv52]

So she made it through to 4.30 last night before she woke?  That's great progress x

[HenaV]

I think if she's unwell and teething you are going to have to play it by ear a little. But by the sounds if things, progress is certainly being made.

H 

[4 under 5]

Last night she woke from 3am till 5am then back to bed with her daddy until 8am.

Not sure what nap to give her today?

[HenaV]

I'd probably go for 12noon myself

[4 under 5]

Ok. Going to be a later nap now as dh had her out. Probably be near one by th time I get her down.  ill see how it goes. X

[4 under 5]

Ok bumping up as last night was the worst night ever.

She was in bed at 8.30
Woke at 8.45 screeming. She cried till 1am.  I had to go in to get her to sleep then dh climbed into the bed so she didnt notice. She slept till 4am and screemed till 5.30am to which in I had to settle her back to sleep once more.

I don't know what to do?? I was going to ring the doctor out of hours :-(

[4 under 5]

Anyone please. X

[Shiv52]

Hugs xx

How does she seem today?  does she still seem unwell?

If shes ok in herself then i do think you may have to be brave and let  DH muddle through for a few days.  By taking over and settling her she is going to think your DH isn't good enough to do it.  It honestly took my friends DH 5 days to get their DD settling for him.  I worry if you don't you are going to run yourself into the ground resettling her in the night and dealing with a newborn.   Something has to give somewhere. 

[4 under 5]

Thanks for your reply. She's not herself. She not eating much, only wants rubbish to eat, her throat is red, not sure if its from all the crying but am taking her to the doctor today to get her checked out.

My poor husband. I rang his mobile phone from my bed last night as he was Down in the living room with her and he said all he could do was stand holding her, she screemed if he even went to sit down with her in his arms?? He didn't know what to to as his back was getting sore.

This is the 2nd week into this now. 

I've put her down for a nap at 11.30am as she was tired. Will I let her sleep till 2pm and bed at 7pm?
I'm scared what tonight has to bring. Lucky my 4&5 year old didnt wake as they back at school today.

[HenaV]

I'm so sorry I missed your post - having sleep issues of our own here!! It does sound to me as though your LO may be struggling with her teeth perhaps combined with the 18SR?

At least with the docs appointment you can hopefully put your mind at rest as to whether she needs any medical attention. I agree 100% with Shiv, you need to let your DH take the lead in this one and manage it. You have too much else to deal with and will ware your self out. Your DH sounds like he's doing a fab job eh?

Re: your plan, yes I would let her sleep the 2.5h. Tbh, given her night I may even go for 3h I she'll sleep. None of what is going on will be helped by OT which she clearly must be. If she has 3h then yes 7pm BT. If she has less, I'd be tempted to go for an earlier BT with a view to her catching up little.

What do you think?

H

[4 under 5]

She won't settle for him though? It takes so long. Hes worn out.  I can't understand why she cried when he tried to sit own with her in her arms but was ok with standing up? I've showed your reply to dh and he's asking would it not be ok for me just to settle her back to sleep until this all blows over a bit? .

I'm ok, new baby sleeps 3 hours or so in between so I get some rest. Just wakes me hearing her crying.
Sorry to hear your having your own problems too.

[Shiv52]

I think its because she is so used to you doing it.  It will take time to get her used to DH.  The only other thing I'd suggest is to not take her out of the bedroom as that could be confusing her.  Just use your sleepy phrase and comfort her in the room.  She may well think hes taking her to find you. 

Hugs xx