DST ruined our 2-1

[jcsmom]

My DD is almost 14 months and about a month ago we went to one nap. I set it at 12:30 with a 7 am wu and a 7pm bedtime. Most days our nap was 1.5 hours and she sttn or had one short NW. Then DST happened and now she is super OT, refusing BT and waking after 10-11 hours. I don't know how to get back on track at all.

Yesterday looked like this:
Wu 7 (after a 8pm bedtime due to BT refusal from a 2 nap day)
nap 12:30 asleep 12:45-wu 2:15
in crib at 6:45 asleep 7:45
wu 5:45 

I certainly can't keep her up until 12:30 or even 12 for that matter. I know she is fighting bedtime due to OT from DST. It's a mess now and I don't know how to get back on track. My mom has her today so I told her it would be an uncapped 2 nap day.

[*Becky*]

Hi,
It all looks ok to me tbh apart from the 5.45am wake up. 11 hours at night is really normal as are 1.5 hour naps.
Did she go back to sleep after the 5.45am start? How did your day go?

[jcsmom]

I am just not sure what to expect from her in terms of sleep. I think realistically I can't expect more than about 13 hours out of her. With that schedule do you think I should have aimed for a later bedtime so she didn't muck herself into OT land? I have been kind of aiming for 5.5 before nap and 5 after but with 5 after she mucks and mucks so I can't figure out if it is too much or too little. I put her down after 4.5 to see if she was mucking due to OT but that just seemed to make it worse. 1.5 naps seem to be her norm, I can't seem to get much longer than that. But she is a historically short napper so 1.5 I am happy with.

Yesterday was a gong show. My mom had her and I asked her to do 2 naps uncapped and this is what it looked like:
5:45 wu in crib til 6:50
s 9:40-10:10 (40 mins)
s pd after 3 hours A and she mucked until 1:40-2:25 (45 mins)

in crib by 5:45 mucked until 6:45/6:50. I don't get it. She had a 10 hour night so I was expecting better naps and a good early BT but nope. She at least slept til 6:20 this Am so am going to try for a nap around 11:45. This puts us a whole hour ahead of where we were before DST though. But if I hold her off she will short nap.

[*Becky*]

the average is an 11 hour night and a 2 hour nap for a lo of that age but that would be a fairly average sleep needs kiddo. HSN kids tend to do more like 12 hours overnight plus a good nap and LSN can be anything really.
I think as long as she is doing around 11 hours at night plus a nap of 1.5 in the day and generally is happy (that is key) then I would just continue with what you are doing.
My DD prefers a longer A in the am and will happily go to sleep after 4 hours of pm A time, some are the other way around.
You might be better now just sticking with 1 nap whatever...

[jcsmom]

I stuck to one nap yesterday (after just over 5 hours A to see if I could get a longer one)and it was just over an hour but I think she was Ut for it as she woke and chatted in her crib for the next hour. I did BT 5.5 hours after waking and she went right to sleep and slept almost 12 hour last night hours straight last night. She is a mystery that is for sure. She is doing 11.5-12 at night and 1.20-1.5ish in the day for the most part. She does like a super long A first thing, like 6 hours. Anything less and we get UT wakings. I am not sure if she is ASN, LSN or HSN just never getting enough sleep, you know? I just wish we could get back to our 7 am waking 12:45/1 nap 7/7:30 bed.

eta today she woke after 6 am
s in car from playgroup 11-11:05
s 12:26-2:15 (second longest nap since she was 4 months old)
bed? she is OT right now from the 2-1 and from mucking at bedtime. I just don't want to put her down too early so she mucks herself into oblivion or too late to have this long nap be a catch up. Since her AM A time was basically 6.5 hours would a 6:30 BT be too late or too early? This girl sleeps a 12 hour night on 2-30-45 minute naps or on a one hour nap. Ideas?

[*Becky*]

my DD also likes long A times and she is also fairly low sleep needs. What we did was a set nap and just moved it each time we got nap resistance. So we started at 11.30am when she first went from 2:1 and now at nearly 2.5 it is 1.30pm. She would be fine until more like 2pm but I have a school pick up to do.
I would think 6.30pm would have been fine for her...how did it go?

[jcsmom]

I put her down at 6:30 and she chatted til 6:55. We had a brief NW for meds at 3-3:15 then she slept til 6:40/45. So a really good night. I think I am going to keep aiming for a later nap of 12:30/45 as with a later nap I get a later wu. With a 7am wu she can make it to almost 1 and then sleeps a good 1.5 hours and will go down at 7/7:15. Is this enough sleep though? I am just not sure as it seems at 14 months this is not enough?

[*Becky*]

that is absolutely fine....11.5-12 at night and 1.5 in the day is amazing

[Joy-filled]

I agree.  11.5-12 hrs at night and 1.5 in the day is amazing.  Plus, the nap isn't broken and she practically STTNs most nights.  Honey, I know you think C's sleep is awful but tbh I think she's doing amazingly well.  I think you're back on track now and I think you have reason to be quite pleased .  You have come so far!  You should be proud of yourself and C! 

[jcsmom]

Thanks guys. I guess since my journey was so awful, I mean life alteringly awful, I just worry so much. The last 2 weeks have not been great and DST really threw things off. I went back to 2 naps and she just could not do it. It made things even worse. I guess I just worry that she is not getting enough sleep since her naps are not always 1.5 or even the coveted 2 hours. Sometimes her nap is 70-75 mins but her night is still pretty good. We do get rough nights sometimes and the bedtime mucking was starting to worry me that she was chronically OT again. Her sleep is such a huge anxiety trigger for me.