Hiya LovelyLilyandJack
I'm sorry, I know that you have probably given me similar instructions to these before!! I think with all the emphasis being on naps in the cot and focusing on that for the last couple of weeks, i'm just now a bit lost routine wise again - so i'm very grateful for you coming back with such a clear plan. It really sounds much more in line with how my little boy seems to operate.
.... we were having to cap naps cos his A times were increasing so quickly.
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really useful info - as to keep to approx 2.5 hours total I figured I needed to wake him from naps as he'll do 3-4 hours otherwise, but I was also doubting myself and really wasn't sure if he was sleeping so well of his own accord, whether I should be waking him or not! (I keep hearing "never wake a sleeping baby" in my head
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I also wasn't sure whether I should be capping both naps or just 1 - but I see below you say to cap the later one if needs be - so should I just let him sleep until he wakes up from the 1st one? Or always try and keep it to around 1.5 hours so that the second is at least an hour?
After waking him from a nap he does seems to want a shorter A time afterwards, but obviously that won't work and I presume I just have to do my best to keep him awake until enough A time has passed? Yesterday he actually passed out on my OH at 3hrs awake in the morning, which hasn't happened since he was tiny... stuff like that makes me wonder about pushing the A's so much... but i'm not sure what else to do to get him through the day but avoid UT!
If you think he was UT at bedtime yesterday, I would try 3hrs 20 and 3hrs 30 A's before each nap today. Plus, I know 12hr days are generally advised but we've never gotten more than an 11 / 11.5hr night here so they just weren't possible, except if J was OT and we did it as a one off. So I would plan on a 12.5 - 13 hr day (unless he has rubbish naps), and try and keep your last A to around 3hrs. If you need to slightly cut your last nap to keep a 13hr day max then I would.
I have to say that instinctively I knew that a 12 hour day would never work for us & trying it again yesterday just proved that to me. Ours have always been about 13, so I know I can work to that no probs, although it still leaves us a couple of hours 'short' with him only sleeping 9.5 overnight.....
.... no idea how to solve that maths puzzle.
I don't know what time he woke up this morning unfortunately - so I decided to work from a 6am wake up as a rough guide as he had obviously been awake for a while when I got him at 6:15am.
He went down for nap 1 at 9:25am but woke after 50mins crying - so we definitely hit OT this morning. As he only had 8hr45/9 hours sleep last night, i'm not surprised! ... I managed to resettle him though and will hopefully get full nap out of him.
If he sleeps until 11am, I will aim for the next nap sometime around 2:30pm if he can last that long.... then if i cap that nap at 1hr, he'll get 3hrs of (grumpy!
) A before bed at 6:30pm ... does that sound about right?
Is it just expected to hit OT with naps for a while with the extended A's, we just carry on regardless I presume?
I was saying to my hubby this morning that even though he is a grump & really hard work on the longer A times in the day, he does sleep a bit better at night... it seems to go against the grain, but keeping him slightly OT does seem to work in our favour at bedtime.. which just leaves the EWs!
Is there anything I can do to shift the early wakings do you think? As with a 12.5 hour daytime and only about 9.5 hours sleep at night (10 on a good night) it appears they are going to be inevitable?