hi all thanks for your answers
knock on wood - what we have been getting for the last three weeks is bed time between 7:45 at 8, then he rouses at 4 and settles himself (we dont go in), then he is up and I BF at 4:45 or 5. Then most times he falls asleep for another 1-1.5 hours.
does this count as STTN?
Another question - is there a "Deadline" for when you should be getting your LO to STTN, before the window for learning has passed - in our prenatal class they told us we had to have it figured out by the 1 year mark, or you run the risk of them always sleeping poorly, but i hvent read that anywhere at asll