OT DD - can't catch her up

[*foxy*]

Thanks Anne. So tired this morning, I was quite tearful. DP got up with the kids though so I've caught up a little. She was Up at 5.20, ugh. And a NW at 1am. It's going to be a long day. I'll make sure she's in her bed for 5.30.

[weaver]

((HUGS)) for the tears.  I'm the same when I'm *that* tired, and there are weepy hormones about for you too, so go easy on yourself.  Rest as much as you can over the weekend.

[clazzat]

Definitely do whatever she needs without worrying about it - if there are consequences you can face them later when you are all in a slightly better way, and if, as is much more likely, there aren't then you have done what she needed from you.  I remember the adjustment to 2 being really really hard, so go easy on yourself.  It will all pass.  It's also worth bearing in mind that her world has been turned upside down too, and some of this might actually just be to do with her adjusting to a new sibling.

[*foxy*]

Thanks for your posts and the hugs - I need them atm. It is tough adjusting to two and I know DD although she loves her new brother, is finding the new dynamics tiring. She finds new experiences challenging and this is one of the bigger ones. Plus we are all still recovering from me and DS being in hospital for 5 days. DD found that really hard. DS takes up a lot of my time (obviously) and DD has to get used to that. I do try to make sure me and her have some time just the two of us each day. It's hard not to feel guilty and I have snapped at her when Im especially tired which I then feel terrible about.

Just doing BT now. I'm hoping she's asleep by 6.30..........

[jessmum46]

Hugs Kate, hoping you get a good night.  Right there with you in the adjustment period xx

[*foxy*]

Hi Katherine. Hope you're doing ok?

Asleep at 6.05! I just sat with her until she fell asleep. Im hoping this will help to catch her up.

[clazzat]

Fingers crossed for a good long night.

[*foxy*]

Hmmm, 3 NW's and up at 5.40am. Not sure if she'll be much more rested! This is tough with a newborn waking me up too.

[*Liz*]

It isn't so much about OT is it? It's needing reassurance etc. it should pass over soon once things settle a little  .

It is hard getting up to 2 children, it is tiring  . But pretty common. I told my Megan about the pregnancy on Friday, and she has been up at night since then!! To ask questions, and give kisses  . Sweet enough, but I guess she is unsettled underneath.

Is your new LO difficult in the evening yet? Def try and get DD to sleep before NB sillies start. That way she gets her calm bedtime (and prob a bit of a ebt as well  ).

My Megan was an early nap drop, and won't take car naps either, so really the OT just has to work its way through doesn't it?? Eventually my Megan has a lie in, but no telling when

[*foxy*]

She definitely needs reassuring atm. She told me she gets tired when Im feeding DS. She was asleep at 6.15 last night and only woke bc DS cried a bit during the night. DP went in and she seemed to settle back ok. She's got white noise in her room but her hearing seems to be very sensitive - she's HS. She woke at 5.40am. Might try BT 15 mins later tonight if she looks like she can handle that

DS was cranky all yesterday. He didn't really settle very well all day but it was very hot here. DD was terrible in the evening so we might get the same again with DS.

[weaver]

She told me she gets tired when Im feeding DS.

Will she snuggle up with the two of you? Do you think you could manage that?  She could have a cuddle, maybe a story or something, while DS feeds. 

Keep on going, one day at a time, it's the only way at this stage.  (())

[*foxy*]

Yes I said to her that we could have a cuddle whilst I feed DS. I know she's struggling with the adjustment but like you say, we'll just take each day as it comes.

[clazzat]

I used to feed dd2 while I was singing dd1 bedtime songs, then I would put dd2 in her cot and go back to dd1 for a short story and goodnight.  Even if dd2 wasn't settled at that point, it was such a short time and it made dd1 feel that she had my undivided attention at least for a little bit before bed - I think it did help to reassure her.