When we have put her in her crib, we lay her down 99% asleep;
This is spot on, start by laying her down drowsy and then work back to laying her down awake. This sounds like a good time for you to think about her wind-down, you may already have a wind-down routine, but see link below if not.
What does a good wind down consist of (Includes 4S ritual)Has she had a good EASY while in the swing? If so, then it's just a case of getting her used to the crib. If not, now is a great time to think about her routine. Average A time for this age is 1 hr 20-30 mins, some babies get less, some more.
It might be a good idea to let her lie in there during A time and have a bit of a wriggle about to get used to it. It may take a few days for her to get used to it. Perhaps raising the head of her mattress might make it feel less of a change.
I hate to think that we are going to put all of this work into training just to have the weekdays totally screw it up.
I know that anxiety, yes
Two things to say here: (1) LOs are much more flexible than we give them credit for, she will probably adapt to what happens there and what happens at home being different (2) if you get a good routine going, you should be able to tell daycare when she needs her nap, so things might not be that different after all.
HTH.