Questions 3 Month Old

[mananieto]

Hello!! My name is maria. This is my second time around and BWhisperer saved my life and my sanity with my first son.

I have started BW since birth, but as every child is different I have some questions

1. She was Sttn with a Bt of 6.30, dreamfeed at 10 and Wake up at 6

Lately she is waking to eat at 4am. And then sleeps until 8 And she starts the day late so I dont know when to feed to keep the same BT. Yesterday was a disaster with her no settling until 11 pm and then waking at 4 to eat. She then slept until 8.30 again so today I still dont know how to organize the day.

My question is... Should I wake her up in the morning at 6.30 to start the day??

2. Im still rocking her to sleep but I know that this will become a prop soon. When I leave her on the crib to fall asleep on her own, she doesnt cry she just shouts like complaining but no crying. I have no idea what to do, since she isnt crying I dont know if I should Pick Up. I have tried to settle in her crib but she just looks at me and smiles or when she is angry she will shout, but no tears...

Do I pick up??

3. With my first son I stayed for too long in the room and ended up being a prop. If she is not crying can I leave her in her crib and leave the room to see if she falls asleep on her own?

If she doesnt fall asleep do I feed and then try again the same method?? Or should I try for lets say 30 minutes and if it diesnt work then rock her to sleep so that she doesnt get OT?

Thats it for now!!!

Thank you thank you so much!!!

[Kellyjs]

Hi Maria,

Personally I would wake at the same time every day but everyone is different. It's a personal choice I think. For me, I liked the consistency and I was so afraid of the feed times getting screwed up and BT (ie me time) would all go to pot!

Would you mind posting your current easy for me to take a peek at? If she's happy and smiling away when you put her down she may just be a little UT. If she isn't crying I wouldn't pick her up and see if she can settle herself. Leave the room and come back if she starts crying (but not a mantra cry). Don't be afraid of doing this hun, you're not abandoning her if she's not crying so it's perfectly fine to leave her to it. For example, my DD took to taking ages to fall asleep at BT (still does), but she's happy singing away to herself up there. I had to learn to leave her to it and not intervene as long as she's not upset.

Hth x