I need advice fast.
My daughter had been sleep trained with PU/PD, but my husband and I had fallen into some AP, so we readjusted it for her age 3 weeks ago (12mo). We just soothed her in her crib without picking up. Admittedly, it wasn't really working. She'd still wake up 3+ times a night. But she's also going through the 2-1 transition and teething (3 teeth at the same time).
My in-laws are staying with us for a few days for the holidays. Last night was the first night my husband and I had a night out since my daughter was born. Because we have a small apartment, my in-laws slept in our master bedroom, while we shared the room with our LO. We came home at 11, and she didn't wake until 5:30am (which was unusual) and she wouldn't go back down. (My first night out, and I had to suffer through an early waking for the first time in a while.
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When everyone was awake, my in-laws told me that after we put her down at 7:30pm, she woke at 8:30pm. Probably from OT because of an exciting day. They gave her a bit of water, but after 30 mins of crying, they shut the door. They said she cried for an hour!! So she slept from 10pm-5:30am. And they think that's enough sleep. Worst of all, my MIL thinks she's cracked it after one night. Whereas, it is so clear to me that she was overtired. Today, every time I left the room she'd fuss, which is not the norm. And whenever I returned, she'd crawl to me and climb up my leg.
I'm so frustrated on so many levels. Apart from there being a language barrier between my in-laws and I, I do speak the language a little, and they really just don't understand. I figured that I'd just bite my tongue while they were here, since they leave on the 2nd. But now I feel that I need to think up ways to fix this! It's not totally clear just yet, but I hope there is no severing of trust between my LO and I.
(This post really helped me to vent as well.)
