Getting him out of our bed

[amayzie]

Ok... so i think the time has come to get him out of our bed I've left it so long as i actually have not minded having him in with us as he is very sweet and he is our only one... but DH is keen to get him out as he tends to crowd DH more than me and DH isn't sleeping well. He currently goes to sleep well in his own bed (as long as there's no nap) but then any time from midnight on will come into our bed. He can stay in his bed as he did it for a week around christmas as he decided he wanted to so he could have a sleep over at my mum's house


Just after some tips! Do we just try taking him back to bed when he comes in? Do we try a reward system- with stickers and such? He also has said that his room is 'scary'.. could this be playing a part? So others have night lights? How bright?


It's also been a silent standoff thing for DH and me as DH is the one ith the problem but has NO ABILITY to deal with it once he's asleep (think the walking dead... only deader )

[anna*]

I would just do silent return... and return... and return. It is hard gathering up that will and determination in the middle of the night, though. Could he have the door ajar and a dim light on the landing?

[Buttonbobs]

I would do a dim nightlight for sure. We have our bathroom light on and E's door ajar which works well for her. Given that he also can do it when he wants to it does sound like some kind of incentive might be a good route for him. We've always managed to get E to stay in her bed by talking to her about it during the day and reminding her she can have a sticker if she stays in her own bed all night until her gro clock sun comes up. After a few days of doing it she usually doesn't need the reminder again and we go back to not needing to incentivise until the next blip.

It is hard with zombie DH's. Mine is the same - he is always willing to help when we talk about it but it takes so much effort to rouse him enough to actually do anything that it's easier and less energy for me to do it myself.

[koe2moe]

If star chart system works for him, it is worth a try.  We have had to allow more and brighter night lights at each major leap.  So bright that I can see very clearly in his room now.  He seems to sleep better when he doesn't see big shadows. 

[twogirlsmommy]

We have a night light and that helps. We also talk out of the moment about how we stay in our bed unlesswe have to pee etc.  Dh is useless at night and in morning as once he is asleep waking him is harder then just getting out of bed myself lol

[amayzie]

After a few days of doing it she usually doesn't need the reminder again and we go back to not needing to incentivise until the next blip.

this is whaT I thought- no reminder after a while

it takes so much effort to rouse him enough to actually do anything that it's easier and less energy for me to do it myself.

Yes!!! DH is on school holidays as he's a teacher and i'm back at work- and the first night I tried to get him to do the 'back to bed' bit Hamish was actually going to be at day care all day- leaving DH home alone!!! Was a total fail!! DH just pretty much refused to get up and take him back in the end!! (we had a few bounce backs)

We have had to allow more and brighter night lights at each major leap.  So bright that I can see very clearly in his room now.  He seems to sleep better when he doesn't see big shadows. 

Yes- this is what i'm wondering- he currently has the gro clock AND the gro egg- so lots of soft glows about... but clearly not enough.. I was always SUPER scared of the dark as a kid (and even a little bit now!) so I do get it...