Hi ladies,
DS is now 4.5 months old (turning 5 months in 9 days), and I would really appreciate some help on figuring out what to do with his routine. I just don't know whether he is OT, LSN, UT, OS or something else? The problems I have are (1) that he almost always short naps (generally 35 minutes, sometimes 30 or 40), and that (2) he is very clingy during much of his A time (wanting to be held or carried) - I wonder if it's because he's not getting enough sleep or something else??
His EASY is a bit all over the place, but generally his A times are 2hr 20 (this occasionally gives a good nap in the morning of 1hr40m) and if he short naps (35m usually) then the next A time I shorten it to 2 hours (any time earlier he just wouldn't go down. I tried 1hr45, 1hr30 etc he will just be fussing but not fall asleep even with AP). He always wakes happy from his short naps and crying after a long one (even 2hrs + he still wakes up crying).
Because of the time it takes to get him to nap again I wonder if he's LSN, but then a few times now when I take him out on the stroller he'd fall asleep around 1hr30?? Does this mean that he's actually not able to sleep earlier due to OT? (These strollers naps would end with him waking up around 30minutes being happy). Any thoughts???
I'm also still trying to teach IS - mostly I am able to pat him in my arms until very drowsy and lay down to continue to pat him to sleep on his side. But there are a lot of jerks in the first 10-20 minutes and I really have to stay for the whole 20 minutes.
At night, I am also getting 1-2hr long NW around 11pm (which is approx. 5hrs after BT). I feed him on both sides and then he's just wide awake. I leave him to it and he cries after a few minutes, I pick him up, he stops crying but is just awake in my arms staring at me (yawning but not getting drowsy). I pat him in the cot and the same thing (plus lots of wriggling). After a bit of settling then I give up and leave him to it, then he cries again after a few minutes - rinse and repeat. It always takes a long time before he would go back to sleep again. These long NWs - can they be caused by OT or do they indicate UT/simply an inability to self settle??
Quite often I'd have to feed him to sleep during the day because he always wakes one last time around 4/5am and that means when he wakes up for good in the morning around 6am he's not hungry until around 8 which is his nap time, so I just end up feeding him to sleep, and then this will repeat 3 hours later.
I'm really tired of the short naps and his constantly being cranky - any advice based on his behaviour please?? I should add that he seems to be spirited/textbook.
I wrote down a standard day for us below but it's different day to day
WU 5.50?6am? Not really sure
First nap - 8.20 - 10am (need to resettle around 35m mark but easily go back to sleep in my arms)
E - 10am
Second nap - 12.20 to 12.55
Feed 1pm
Third nap - 2.50 to 3.30
E - 4pm
BT - 6pm (with top up feed and he fell asleep feeding at BT - he always does that)
NW: 11pm - 1am(!!) and then at 4am, 5am waking up at 6.20 this morning.
Grateful for any help!