Above all I would be as consistent as you can be hun. Remember, you've taught her that the way to fall asleep is with you and you are moving the goal posts on her. That's not saying you've done anything wrong whatsoever hun, it's just looking at it from her perspective ok?
I like the gradual approach because it's slowly letting them know what's expected of them.
Unfortunately I don't think wi/wo would be right for her because except for a few occasions, she generally isn't an IS. That will work much later on down the line once we crack this first bit ok? So keep that one on the back burner
I would start by literally holding her for less and less time over a period of at least a couple of weeks. Concentrate on putting her down drowsy but not fully asleep this coming week. Then if she wakes up and starts getting upset, I would then try and soothe her in the crib. Hopefully by then she's started to think about falling asleep and it won't take as much time as it did for you last night. Does that make sense? For the NW's I would try and first soothe in the crib, then if it escalates do what you do before and hold her, perhaps start reducing the rocking a little and rinse and repeat what I said above. What do you think? Do you think this is doable? Remember there will be some crying as you're changing up what she's come to expect and that's her way of protesting a little and telling mummy she's doing it all wrong
. Hopefully with the gentle approach she won't protest too much, but you are there and this is in no way mean or are you a bad mummy for hearing her cry. You are there and soothing her, just a slightly but different than before xx
