Hello everyone, I found this forum doing some research, and I am desperate at this point. Let me give you a little background.
We bought our first house this past December 2016 and we've been living there ever since, my daughter was 2.5 yrs old at the time and she adapted well to the situation, we decorated her room the way she liked it, fresh pink paint, bought her a new disney princess bedroom set, princesses comforter, stuffed animals everywhere, Mickey, Minnie, Goofie, you get the point by now, her room is very welcoming and cozy. She was sleeping there every night and all night for the first 2 months. My husband works at night, so I would sleep with her in her room on the days he had to work nightshifts.
Now, I made the mistake of putting her in our bed so that i could watch some TV the days my husband worked, and whenever she got sick, she would sleep in between us two. She got used to this routine and continued to sleep with us for maybe a month or two. Now I have been training her to go back to sleep in her own bed, I have been working on this for almost a month and a half, using the I think its called withdrawal method, i would read a story and then put her to bed, the first night was horrible, the second night was a bit easier, and so on. But we were still getting late night visits, she would come to our room and sneak in our bed, we dont even hear her walking to our room anymore as we are so tired, until the next morning when we see her there in between us again.
She's been going to the same daycare since she was 5 months old, this week, on Monday, we changed her to another daycare, and she wakes up everyday crying calling for her old teacher, and now, I am back to having sleeping problems again, I feel like i am starting from ZERO, she went back to not wanting to sleep in her bed unless I lay down with her, I am thinking that maybe the transaction from one daycare to the other has affected her bedtime routine as well.
Yesterday was the only day that she went to sleep without crying, at 8:30 p.m. and without me being in the room, I would check on her after 5 minutes and so, and it was PERFECTLY fine, I thought, hey maybe we are back to normal! But then when i Went to bed at 10:30 p.m. she woke up and walked into my room, crying and refusing to go back to hers, I laid down with her and she would still not want to sleep in her room, in her bed, she would sit on her bed and point to my bedroom's direction. I kept ignoring her and trying to sleep, she cried, I would just cuddle her to comfort her.
I need your help, I am not sure how to stop late night visits, her refusing to sleep in her own bed, I have been trying to sleep train her for a month and a half and i feel like i have not accomplished anything! It's been months since the last time she slept through the night, she requires me to be there all the time, I am exhausted, I don't know what to do! She will be 3 this August.
Thanks.