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Baby catnaps and I have a 3 year old to tend to
« on: November 07, 2018, 17:20:11 pm »
Hi everyone

Iím making my way through the book as my friend donated it to me when I told her I wouldnít be attachment parenting my second (we had no routine and weíve suffered)!! I love the idea of more routine but my 9 week old sleeps for 20 minutes MAX during the day (itís more regularly 10 mins). So Iíve been doing the shhhh pat, setting the scene, watching for tired cues but it takes at least 30 mins to settle him and with such short naps, that means Iím leaving my poor eldest to it for a lot  of the day which isnít sustainable (heís nearly 4 so can play a bit on his own but doesnít want to).

Additionally come 2-3pm the baby turns savage (heís a fussy baby) and it can take over an hour to get him to sleep and often I wind up feeding him to sleep because heís been crying so long he starts telling me heís hungry and he escalated to an unbearable degree.

I really really want this to work but I just donít know how to manage with my situation and such short naps. He doesnít sleep any longer on me, or in the sling but seems permanently tired which I think is making him grumpy.

Any advice? 😊😊😊😊

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Re: Baby catnaps and I have a 3 year old to tend to
« Reply #1 on: November 25, 2018, 21:25:06 pm »
Hello and welcome to BW forums

If your LO is always waking at 20 mins (and often 10) and there is not improvement if you use a sling I suspect he may have some pain or discomfort, is there any sign of reflux or silent reflux for example?
Feeding smaller feeds more frequently can sometimes help with reflux (not always) and certainly if he is crying with hunger then you should feed without worrying about whether it is time or not.
It could be worth a trip to the doctor to discuss reflux.