about the cluster feeding that is precisely what i thought and stopped today and she seemed to be just fine with it!
routine:
E 4:30 or 5 am
back to sleep
wake & play by herself 8:00 or 8:15
E 8:30-8:45 am
A 9:15 am
S 10:30am (usually 2 hrs sometimes a little less)
E 12:30
A 1:00
S 2:30
E 4:00 or 4:30 (depending on when she wakes up, we try and stretch it if she is up early from a nap)
A 4:30
S 5:15 (catnap)
A 6:00 (bath, give medicine, vitamin d, etc)
E 7:45
S 8:15pm
DF 11:00 pm
that was our schedule today with the cluster feedings cut out, she's not 100% consistant with wake up times in the morning (if it's a little later trust me i don't mind), and mostly i read her signs so if there is a day she only has 1 hr and a half A time so be it!, so it varies within a half hour or so some days.
i realize that she didn't have a full 4 hrs between feeds this evening but she was getting tired. sometimes she doesn't want the catnap and just fights it - so in that case would i just put her to sleep for the night at six o clock?? and do i wake her to feed her at 8:00 pm then? or do an extra dreamfeed? i realize some days she gets overtired (when she doesn't have her catnap) but i think more of the problem is overstimulation in the evening (that's when family comes to visit, my mom and dh get home from work and everyone is so excited to see her and they just want to make her giggle ) anyway, thanks for the help!