Xavier is 18 months too, and for the last 6 months he's been eating finger foods (he refuses to eat anything mushy, except yogurt). For breakfast, I always give him a carb (bread, pancake, croissant, waffle), a protein (deli meat, cheese, egg) and a fruit. For lunch and dinner, it's carb, protein, veggies and fruit. Morning snack is yogurt, afternoon snack is crackers or muffin or arrowroot cookies. He eats family food, unless it's something that is new to him or that he may not like it. Yesterday night we had chili, salad and garlic bread. I made ds some pasta and mixed veggies, and while he wouldn't eat the beans in the chili, he dipped his pasta into it and ate most of it anyway.

He also ate some salad, and of course, fruit for dessert.
Just gradually introduce your dd to new finger foods and soon, she'll be eating the same as the rest of the family.
