I hope to keep this short, but I'm very tired and not sure I can be concise. My son, Benjamin, is used to getting put to sleep during the day and when wakes up during the night, by laying down next to one of us. He goes to sleep on his own at bedtime. We have travelled recently and he has started waking up at night, usually at 11:00, 4:00 and 6:00. I've always fed him at the 11:00 slot, and he nurses in bed at 6:00 a.m., falls asleep with me until 7:30 and is then up for the day. We try to just give him a pacifier at 4:00 but he many times refuses this and won't settle down until he nurses or has a bottle (he eats just a little; he's clearly not hungry at this waking). He takes two naps, one at 8:00 and one at around 2:00 and the same thing: he is used to us laying down with him (which one of us usually does as we're so exhausted from the night time) and so that's what he seems to need right now.
My question is: where do I begin to change this? I tried today to get him to go to sleep on his own for the 2:00 nap, which he sometimes is able to, and it was awful. For nearly two hours I did pu/pd when he would fuss, but he stuck it out, crying and sitting/standing up when I would leave. He didn't seem to tire out after hours of this and I finally just gave up. I laid down with him after two hours and he was asleep in a minute.
I know Tracy talks about baby steps, but I am clueless about what these would be in this instance. Some of my questions, for those more experienced than me, are:
Should we tackle day or night first, or do them both at once?
Should we be doing something other than pacifer, pu/pd?
I know there are many posts asking for help on sleep issues, but if anyone has a moment, I would be so grateful for the help.
GR