There are differing opinions on this, but I always cut Tyler's finger food into small squares or pieces. When we were starting out, everything was the size of a cheerio. I found that if I gave him pieces any bigger than that, he'd either shove the whole thing in his mouth and gag or would have no control over how big of a bite he took. When Tyler first started, I lightly toasted his bread, it seemed easier for him to mush up. I gave him soft bread much later when he was able to eat chunks of sandwich. Butter is optional, I never used it. I've only used whole grain bread for him, as whole grain has more fiber and is far less constipating. Carrots and soft cheese, I always did small chunks, but I know some people have had luck with cottage cheese curds (Tyler hated them). HTH!
