hi,
blasted site has been down forever it seems!!
does sound like your babe has days & nights mixed up. i understand the temptation to let her sleep - makes you feel more normal. but you're right, gotta get her turned around.
be warned - depending on her biorhythm, this could take a couple days, or a couple weeks to fully adjust her. take what you can get when you can get it.
to get her turned around, you need to start to help clue her in to the difference between night & day. Daytime mommy is cheerful, talkative, interactive, & makes eye contact. there is lots of light & sunshine (even if you just hold her by the window). Nighttime mommy is quiet, the light is dim if there is any light, and doesn't make eye contact. everything is kept as low key as possible.
IMHO... during the day i always woke my kids when it was time to eat. i wanted them to sleep at night ASAP!! jaina was pretty easy to rouse... luke not so much. things to try, talking to them, turning on lights, stripping them... and if all else failed i'd dampen a washcloth & stroke that on them.
anyhow, hope some of this helps!!