I'm so sorry this is so long, but I'm so confused!!
My Touchy Angel is going to be 1 on Monday. She has been on EASY since she was 10 days old - and been a pretty good sleeper. We had a difficult time at 4.5 months adjusting to the 4hr EASY, changing to formula, and giving up her soothing, but since then things have been pretty consistent. Of course there have been a few rough patches but generally I've found if I really emphasize the routine and 'super-size' the rituals at these times, we've gotten back on track in just a few days. Well, NOT THIS TIME!
About 3-4 weeks ago my DD started refusing her afternoon naps. I thought she was overtired and too young for 1 nap, so I got her back into a strong routine (probably more of a schedule to be honest - to make sure the afternoon nap didn't get too late) and she went back to 2 naps pretty well. She got a tooth just after that so I put it down to teeth. Then at the beginning of this week, it started again. What is really different this time though is that she has started refusing her sleep at bedtime too - this is very uncharacteristic for her. For the last couple of days she has taken at least 30 minutes to go to sleep - and insists that we be there while she goes off. But, after I put her down, put my hand on her back for a while, she starts to chirp up and kick the cot, eventually sitting up wanting to start a little 'chat' with me. I PD straight away - but sometimes she sits straight back up. I then PD and leave, she then screams, and so on, and so on.....
She has started waking up really early too. I can't remember exactly when it started (and she has always woken a while before we get her up) - but it is getting earlier and earlier. This morning she started at 4am. She crys wah wah and then nothing for 20 minutes then wah wah and then nothing for 20 minutes. This continued until 5.30 when she stood up and I had to go in. I sat with her, she settled, and I left. 5 minutes later she stood up again - I sat with her, she settled and I left - 20 minutes later she cried again. This time my husband went in and came out saying she is not going to go back to sleep. We left her until 6.30 - normal get up time at the moment.
The last few days she has been unbearable in the mornings so I've been putting her down for an early morning nap (8.30-9), waking her at 10 at the latest, and then putting her down at about 1-1.30. She has had a 2 hour nap in the afternoon for the last 2 days like this. I've also brought her bedtime forward from 7-7.30 to 6.30-7.
She has been less tired at night the last 2 nights and so has settled easier - last night not really taking much help at all - I only had to go back in to her once and sit next to her for 5 minutes. So my guess is that the other days she was just sooo overtired. So my current plan is obviously helping with that - but is the early nap the reason for the early wakeups and should I put up with a very grumpy child and try to push her to a 1 nap routine - knowing that this will mean very difficult days and difficult bedtimes until she starts waking later?
But what do I do now? Is this accidental parenting? teething? change to 1 nap? interference from early morning nap? all of the above?
This is all so much harder to interpret because so much has changed recently too. We have moved house (3 months ago), my husband has stopped working from home and in the last 2 weeks is leaving earlier and getting home later, she is getting new teeth, she has learned to stand up, I've started sitting 2 other kids on Tuesday afternoons, etc etc
It is so hard for me to see the situation clearly with all this to consider. Maybe you can see it more clearly than me? What should my plan be? Where do I start and what do I tackle first? second?
HELP! I'm lost and this is killing me. I've worked so hard for the last 12 months to help her to be a good sleeper - I feel like it has all been a waste of time!