Thanks for your suppportive words. His day is unpredictable but I seems to be like this:
6-6.30 wakes
8-9 BF to sleep
wakes often after 10, 20 or 30 minutes. I go in, lie by him (he is on mattress), nurse him back to sleep.
Try to extend nap to at least one hour
10ish Activity
11.30 BF then solids (just tasters at the moment, only been going a week)
12 BF to sleep (again I try to extend his nap by nursing when he wakes and won't go back to sleep on his own)
1-2 Wakes, activity
4 ish BF to sleep (this usually only lasts half an hour)
5 ish Activity - often we go for a walk
6 BF
6.15 Bath
After bath he cries when being dressed so cant read him a book.
Soft music, dark room, BF to sleep on mattress.
Sleep around 6.45/7. Try to lift him into cot once asleep but he often wakes and have to go through whole BF on mattress cycle again. I usually try this twice or three times, then give up and leave him on mattress.
Whilst he used to sleep through well till 4 or 5 he now wakes at random and numerous times throughout the night e.g."
9, 11, 12, 1, 1.30, 2, 4, 5.30
I bring him into my bed so I can get some sleep and I nurse him back each time. Sometimes now it doesn't work and he talks and cries.
So by morning I am very tired andhe is not hungry because he has snacked all through the night. What a mess!
I know I need to make the big change but, as I said I am waiting for help to do it.
I agree that I need to reverse the feeding/sleeping thing but the question is how? If not with PUPD which I am waiting to do when I go for it. I could try a lovey but I know it won't be enough on its own, his BF to sleep habit is so entrenched. Maybe there is nothing I can do until I do the whole thing properly.
I am trying to use a specific CD of lullabys at every sleep so he associates it with sleep so it might help when he no longer has boob. I try reading a book when he is not crying but he often is. He doesn't like being swaddled now although he did when he was very small. I don't see how I can nurse after sleep as he currently can't get to sleep without it.
Oh dear.
Yorkshire.