Hi, my DD is 5.5 months on 4hr EASY and doing really well. She is consistently putting herself to sleep for naps usually without even a whimper. She still needs help at bedtime and have started PU/PD for this which is working well so far. With sh/pat she had been waking every 30-45 min until DF, has not woken once since started PU/PD. She still needs several PU/PD before mantra or fussy crying. DH can't tell when she is only fussing and not "I need you crying". Yes, sometimes she is loud, but not frantic. He thinks any type of crying needs to be addressed. We fight about it because he thinks I am being mean that she is fussy crying by herself. I have tried to explain it to him many times. and even had him listen to the difference, but he doesn't get it. I literally have to block the door to keep him from going in when she is fussy crying. He is such a pushover.
How do I get him to understand. DD & I have worked really hard to get here, and I think DH is going to ruin it all. He puts DD to bed once every few weeks when I have bookclub. Last week he did sh/pat afew times, she kept crying when she rolled to her back, so he gave her the pacifier ARGH!! I was so ticked at him for doing that. I mean I spent an hour at 3:30am doing pu/pd to get her to sleep when she wanted to play and he gives her the paci after 10-15 min. The paci is for EMERGENCY use only. Hopefully these 2x a month daddy nights won't ruin all my hard work.
How did you get DH to work with you at bedtime and not against you? I just don't understand why he doesn't get it.
Thanks for letting me ramble,
Natalie
