Moving to 3.5 hr EASY – a few questions
I’m moving my 5 month old DD to 3.5 hr EASY (and maybe 4 hr EASY) and I’ve got a few questions. This has been recommended to me since she’s been waking at 10pm-ish and also 6am-ish, and she does 45 min naps. She’s done 45 min naps since she was 9 weeks old. (Didn’t have the energy to work on that back then!). She had been feeding every 2.5 – 3 hrs but now she can often go 3.5 hrs. She’s comfortable with about 1.75 hrs awake time.
I’ve got a few questions.
WAKE UP TIME
I’m wondering if I should change her “wake up” time. She seems to wake up shortly after 6am and stir. She calls out to me sometime around 6.20-6.45. It’s not a hunger cry, just talking “come and get me up”. I wait till it’s more persistent then go in. She’s happy and ready to start the day. A couple of months ago she would always stir around 6 and go back to sleep until 7am. Then either wake just before 7 or I’d wake her up. This doesn’t happen very often now…. Occasionally it’s a dirty nappy that may have woken her but not always. Today I changed the dirty nappy and put her back but as soon as I put her in bed she did a hunger cry – she’s used to me changing her first then feeding – this is our morning routine - to avoid her getting wet through during the feed. With family staying for a month we had quite a few 5 & 5:30 wakings then went back to 7am - but mostly 6-6:45am now. My husband gets up at 6am but this never used to bother her even when she slept in our room (she hasn’t for a month now).
---- Should I adjust the start time of the day to 6/6:30 and give up on 7am? Will she eventually get back to sleeping till 7am? I’ve tried feeding and putting back but she doesn’t always get back to sleep if it’s already 6:30. Then she takes virtually nothing at 7 or 7:30. I can get her up and hold her off feeding but that’s not brilliant either.
EXTENDING AWAKE TIME
I’m keen to start extending her awake time to move to 3.5 hr EASY. For the last month I’ve been training her to go to sleep independently so I was going purely on tired signs, putting her down at first tired signs. So I didn’t want to extend her wake time. That’s going really well now so ready to move on. I usually put her down 8:30-45 and she’s asleep by 8:45-9:00. Yesterday I kept her up till 9am and she still did a 35 min nap. It’s hard to know how much real “awake” time she’s had given that she’s often woken earlier and it may have been a while till she called me in. Do I just keep adding another 5 mins each day and hope that she’ll nap longer? I'm scared to over-extend in case it's too hard to get her to sleep. Only a handful of times does she do longer than 45 mins. The pattern in the last week or so is 2 x 35 min naps followed by a 1.5 hr nap – sometimes I’ve extended her with shush-pat, other times she does it by herself. She’s happy when waking from the first 2 naps so I just get her up. She’s crying if she wakes early from the 3rd, so I shush-pat her back to sleep – usually successfully. For weeks on end she did 4 x 45 min naps and seemed happy enough but now she seems to need more sleep. (And I would really love the 45 min naps to go away!)
BED TIME
I’ve been putting her to bed earlier – 7am now instead of 7:30. She’s usually asleep by 7:15 or 7:30 (instead of 8pm) unless she’s really overtired. I read that an earlier bedtime will help them sleep longer – should I try that say 6:30pm – to get back to 7am?
If she’s done 2 x 35 min naps followed by a 1.5 hr nap waking at say 4pm should I give her a catnap or put her to bed 30 mins earlier? Sometimes I’ve tried a catnap but then it’s held me up by the time she’s asleep (even in buggy) it’s gone 5:30 and then the bath is delayed and she goes to bed later anyway.
How do I know whether to do a catnap or not? Do I base it on how much awake time is left to bedtime – or should I look at total hours naps so far? How much is too much?
MOVING TO 3.5 HR EASY
Because of the short naps, the feeds often running into time for next nap! She can go 3.5 to 4 hrs between feeds but sometimes by early afternoon I end up feeding before she's actually hungry so that I can get her down for a nap - she's already tired. What's the way around this?
Here’s a typical day at present.
7 wake up, change nappy
E 7:15
A 7.45
S 8.30 start wind-down. (Asleep 8.50, Slept 40 mins)
Awake, A 9.30
E 10.45
A 11.15
S 11.45 start wind-down (Asleep 12.20, Slept 35 mins)
Awake, A 12.55
E 1.25
A 1.55
S 2.25 start wind-down (Asleep 2.45, Slept 1.5 hrs – I extended nap with shpat)
Awake, A 4.20
E 5.00
A 5.30
(Sometimes will have a catnap, depends on time of last waking and naps so far)
Bath 6.00
E 6.30 feed (top-up)
S 6.55 Start wind-down (In bed 7pm. Asleep 7.15)
E 10.00 Dream Feed
She woke 5.50am in morning. Fed at 6.20 (not sure if was really hungry).
Before moving towards 3.5 hr EASY, the routine was:
7 wake up, change nappy
E 7:15
A 7.45
S 8.30 (45 mins)
A 9.30
E 10.00
A 10.30
S 11.30 (45 mins)
A 12.30
E 1.00
A 1.30
S 2.15 (45 mins)
A 3.15
E 3.30
A 4.00
S 5.00 (45 mins)
E 6.00
A 6:30 bath
E 7.00 feed (usually small top-up)
S 7:30. (Asleep by 8pm)
E 11 Dream Feed
I'd be grateful for any suggestions.