Well, this is my first post and I am so happy to have found this site- and the book. Here is my issue. LO will be 6 months this week. He was born prematurely and was in the NICU for just under 2 weeks. When we got him home, we fell into accidental parenting after about 2-3 weeks when he started to kind of spit up and I was afraid that he would aspirate on it! i admit i was a little panicky. so i started co-sleeping with him on the pull out so that my husband, who was working, could get some sleep. we also fell into the habit of holding him a lot, even when he was sleeping. (he was so small it was just too easy to do). well, it got to be that he would not stay sleeping in his bed once we put him down (we were holding/nursing/rocking to sleep). and he still wakes up when you lay him down (if he is already sleeping).if we put him down awake, even very sleepy, he cries and cries and will not go to sleep (we have tried to let him cry it out). he does not sleep well, naps or night. for naps he takes catnaps all day long. usually he takes about 3 or 4 30-60 minute naps a day, usually only 30/45 minutes. and bedtime is just as bad. somehow, he goes to bed very late, around 9:30/10:00 roughly. he is tired around 7 and i go to lay him down but he sleeps for 20 minutes and we cannot get him to go back to sleep! he wakes up smiling and talking and laughing and will not sleep. then, as we co-sleep at night, he wakes to suckle frequently (he is breast fed exclusively). i mean almost every hour after about 2 am! he does not/will not take a paci and only sucks on his fingers for entertainment, not comfort. he is usually not overly cranky during the day, but the night wakings are killing me. admittingly i/we have done whatever it took to make him happy, but we must be more responsible parents and help him learn how to fall asleep on his own, which i do not believe he has learned to do (although he does it VERY rarely). he sleeps pretty well in the swing or when we are driving (props). we are going on vacation this week and plan to implement EASY starting next week when we return. he eats solids for diner only and we are starting breakfast sometime next week.
So, after all of that, my question is this...
where do we begin? do we just start on EASY and work on getting him to sleep in his bed all at once? or do we get started on EASY, then work on the sleep issues?
oh, i should mention also that he nurses to sleep almost everytime he sleeps, otherwise he is rocked/walked/swung. we have tried cry it out, but it does not seem to be getting better and he still wakes after the first sleep cycle (or sooner, since he wakes about 20 minutes into naps) and then cannot go back to sleep.
I hope I have not left any other important information out. Please, we are looking for advice and this board seems to offer great advice. Thanks,
Yvette